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I'll see everyone in 15 minutes, and Tea a little later (don't worry, your worth the wait 🙂 <3 s t r e t c h i n g
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Working on warming up now and stretching in maybe 30-45 min. Anyone that wants to feel free to join in on chat 🙂
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JeHanne has some great advice there. Don't stop doing something you love b/c of idiots like that. Why give them a win? Take the power from them and keep going to the studio, but definitely let the studio know about these perverts so the necessary precautions can be taken. Unfortunately, as women, we will run into crap like this every so often so it's worth it to find ways to protect yourself and move past it rather than let it defeat you. In any case, usually these types are all wind and scared away easily or at least would not stand up very well to a group of badass strong pole ladies 😉 I hope it works out, sounds like you have something great going at that studio!
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Yes, QueenJewell, and join in if you'd like!
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I used to be part of a high heel forum and there was one thread where a bunch of us gathered and posted postive comments. The rest of the forum was very blunt, sometimes praiseful and sometimes even insulting. I loved the whole forum until we lost regulars in our thread and now I only ever go to that forum if I am PMed by one of the few people I liked. That forum was centered around how long you've been a part of it and how popular your interests are (most of the site was straight men who wear heel so it was easy for me to be out of place).
When I found StudioVeena, I found myself wondering why all anyone ever said was positive. Gradually, I began to see the effect of this. People struggling or making very personal videos would post them with confidence. I saw improvement from video to video based on a deep belief that it was possible for anyone to pole. It takes a lot to believe in yourself, especially with all the negativity elsewhere as chemgoddess1 mentioned, like on YouTube, Facebook, and especially real life. And then there's the negativity against polers!
Another angle to consider is shifting your perspective. I have watched videos on here of ladies wearing chunky platform heels and thought how sexy and graceful they look–even though I don't like these heels myself! I wondered how that could be and I think it's because when you focus on what the dancer is expressing, a routine that might not seem like the status quo of sexy becomes sexy because the dancer feels sexy and it shows. Or in the case of the heels, a dancer might notice her lines are accentuated by the heels and she reflects this by moving with extra gracefullness so the overall picture is graceful.
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It is sad when our parents feel entitled to having what we have, in that negative way. I can totally understand this. In high school I spent three months working at an internship, waking up early in the summer (that was a huge deal to me lol), and was looking forward to the stipend. Weeks passed and nothing arrived. I kept complaining to my mom about how long it was taking until one day I finished my rant with, "I'm just going to call and find out what is taking so long!" And she took the phone from me. She had already spent it. I was furious, and, not surprisingly, a bad child for it.
Worst part? If she told me she wanted it, I would have been so proud to have been able to give my mom something that I worked for.
It sounds like you are willing to do everything to help your mother, but in this case, it sounds like it will only hurt you and your relationship. She only asks it from you because she knows you will cave. Just say no. You might feel like you should just forgive and forget all that money owed–I know that's how I handled it with my mother every time–but it sounds like a huge emotional drain when you have to work so hard for your money, worrying about making ends meet. Whatever you chose, you know you have friends here that understand 🙂
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See you all in 20 minutes –>Bendy buddies chat room on StudioVeena 🙂
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I just came across this video today and was not surprised this was posted before. This really is awesome! &so so hot!
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Yes! Anyone that's free and wants to pop in please join us 🙂
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Bonne Aniversaire! Hope you enjoy your day to the fullest 🙂
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Oh crap! Bendy buddies in 10 minutes & I haven't warmed up! I might be 5 -10 minutes late warming up 🙁
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I printed some copies of my resume today! I've applied to a few "filler jobs" to pick up extra hours but haven't heard back so I will *gasp* actually be applying to a job at another jewelry store. The minute I am hired (I really think I will get this job) and tell my boss as much will be the last minute I can be there, so a two week's notice is kind of a joke. Which feels… surprisingly exciting!
Also, I read a <a href="http://aerialamy.com/blog/2011/11/28/gaslighting/">blog entry by aerial amy about gaslighting</a> and communication manipulation. It gave me chills! This is exactly what I've been dealing with on a daily basis. I have already written out my letter of resignation too, so I can stop making excuses, apply for a new job, and move on to better times 🙂
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Last day, everyone!
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What we should do is post when we are doing our warm up to stretch so if someone else out there that might be ready to join in would know. That way we can do random, spontaneous "stretching jams" 🙂
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LizziePole & Debss, what are good times for the two of you? You could always start a UK Bendy Buddies 🙂