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yippeeeee skippeeeeeee i did straight edge!!! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_bounce.gif

[azriel]

First of all, congrats on gettin in the grad school you wanted! Secondly, i agree with jacq 100% (and i’m sure you do too) that grad school is definately a huge priority. You can pole-dance forever, but grad school is temporary and of course it would be better off to do it now.
It sounds to me like your dad doesn’t know about you having a pole. I understand that he’s very conservative, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t tell him. And if he doesn’t accept it, well then you’ll just be back at point A, with one possible option eliminated, so you have nothing to lose.

About telling him: it is EXTREMELY important the manner in which you bring it up. First impressions are the strongest and longest-lasting. If you seem nervous, or sound like it’s something naughty, or that you don’t think he’d approve, then chances are he’ll pick up on it and he’ll really think that there’s reason for him to not approve.

And whatever you do, don’t make it seem like a big deal (example " i have something that i need to talk with you about")- first reactions to that phrase are usually along the lines of "uh-oh, i’m gonna hear something baaad", and then this predisposition will actually cause the person to interpret the whole thing as something worse than if you hadn’t started off that way. Just be casual about it: say that you got a new exercise pole to work out on, and since you really like it, you’d like to put it up in your room, but you just want to make sure that he knows that it won’t mess up the ceiling in his house. This way, it sounds like you’re asking him for permission because the ceiling is an issue, and not his permission because it’s something provocative that he may not approve of. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_smile.gif Take the attention away from the pole itself and what you do with it, and focus on the ceiling, the joist stuff, and how the equipment works on pressure. The more ‘normal’ you sound about it, the more normal he’ll perceive it to be. This may also be easier over the phone than in person. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_cat.gif

If you don’t like this idea, you can always just straight out say how you feel.. that you’re worried he’s not going to allow it because he’s so conservative, but that really it makes you happy and keeps you in shape, or whatever else. I personally would just go with the first idea though, because it really isn’t something that should be a big deal. I’d tell you not to say anything, and to just casually put it up, but i assume you wouldn’t risk doing that. Bringing it up beforehand will be good for getting it off your chest sooner, and testing his reaction ahead of time. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_albino.gif

Don’t get me wrong- i don’t think we need to hide anything or be ashamed, need anyone’s approval, or even lie to people about pole-dancing, but sometimes it’s to our benefit in cases like these, to just say things in a different WAY, or to just focus on a certain feature.. especially to people who just won’t understand it in any other way, and super-especially if it will make the difference between being able to have a pole or not in someone else’s house. good luck and sorry this is soo long!!!

[azriel]

wow pole-twista i’m soo jealous!! congrats!!! arite, now pass over your secret tips!! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/bom.gif

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jacq- it sounds like we do have to thank Henry and asshole boss for this site, lol!
wow veena, i find it very interesting that there was not one, but TWO events that happened within a day of eachother, to prevent you from opening a studio!..and that then things proceeded in a way that allowed you to create this site (ex. your husband finding another great job). I don’t know if you would’ve been happier owning a live studio (sorry don’t know how else to call it), but creating this online pole community has helped, benefited, and brought together so many people from all over the world (many of whom also don’t have classes in their area/country), and that wouldn’t have been possible if the studio wasn’t online. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_smile.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_sunny.gif

Tracy welcome to the site! I’m sorry to hear about your leg and that you had to quit running. And i hope the ‘investigation’ helps to find you an effective treatment for the ulcer.. And how can you not fall into depression when you unwillingly have to quit something you love? I really hope that poling does open a new door (and i think it will) and that it can be an even better replacement of your previous passion (i beleive it’s therapeutic for depression as welll!). Just make sure to take it slow and to check with your doctor first about your leg. Thanks so much for sharing your story!

Trena, LOL. i know, funny how i started this thread without telling a story of my own.. i only have one such story that’s related to pole-dancing, but i think that it’s still in the process of being unfolded, so i don’t want to jinx it by talking about it yet! Silly, i know, and i don’t really believe in jinxing, but it’s really too early to put it together just yet! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_geek.gif

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i’m glad you all liked it. Haha butterflii i’m a bit cheesey in other ways anyway. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_smile.gif

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hey static and welcome! you’re more likely to get the best advice if you post a vid, the girls here are really helpful. the only tip i have that might help you is to concentrate on engaging your arm muscles, and think about allowing your upper body to fall back as you invert. I’m not an expert, but i don’t think there’s anything wrong with giving a little small kick with the outside leg until you’ve built up more strength (this is a bit different than jumping though).

[azriel]

That’s really weird.. hope everything’s ok (i’m pretty sure it’s not a big deal). let us know how it turns out!

[azriel]

hi redpassion, welcome to the site! As far as space goes, the more the better, although many people have been able to ‘get by’ in pretty small spaces (you just gotta be really careful in that situation, and will start to feel restrained at some point). I would think that at least 2 arms length would be ok, (but more would be better). I’m sure you’ll figure it out once you start using your pole.. good luck!

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Jacq i wasn’t hoping for anything in particular, and i’m really glad you responded! I believe that there’s no such thing as "not deep enough" when it comes to topics like these.. only you can feel how meaningful or ‘deep’ something is for you! I really enjoyed reading about your experience in discovering pole dancing..and i love your interpretation in terms of how you suddenly found something physical that you were good at, the events that led to it, and what it means to you.. thanks so much for sharing that!! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_rendeer.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_viking.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_cheers.gif

[azriel]

omg that was insane!!!

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Sascha that’s soo awesome! you must’ve had so much fun!!! really can’t wait to see it! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/alien.gif

Rouge i really hope you do get back into the industry- you sound like you really have a thing for it! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_smile.gif

[azriel]

Have you made sure the the little holes are lined up with the little Xs at the bottom? I also found that my screws are never tight enough unless i insert the short side of the key in, so the long side is sticking out, and twist like that. You get a much tighter screw that way. If you already did that, and it still loosens so fast, i don’t know, i would call the technical assistance department at x-pole. good luck!

[azriel]

oohh mrstrone i like roxy pink for you!! i’m thinking of naming my pole Balthazar. LOL .or maybe Sylvester

[azriel]

ooohhh those are both cool moves, but i think that the way kelly does it is harder, because she gets into it from a shoulder mount, and seems like she holds the shouldermount ‘pose’ without really using her legs much.. i’ve been practicing this the way lola does it- i just can’t seem to slide down as fast as i would like to yet.. guess it’s just a matter of a lil practice!

[azriel]

welcome misha..! yeah we’d love to hear about your first lesson!