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Sorry, meant competition.
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Yes, definitely find him a hobby. When I told my man that I wanted a pole, he was all over it because I had finally found something that I am interested in. Of course though, we did have financial issues but that never stops us from doing the things we love. On that note, I have never knocked back anything that he has wanted to do.
If you love something, don't let it go. If it's a pole you want, you will work around it. Perhaps associate your pole dancing with something that he loves doing. For example, my partner loves racing and has recently spent time playing with his car (man toy). Get him into something and perhaps he won't mind the idea of you getting a pole. 🙂
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His opinions are important, but if you truly feel happy about your progress (which you should, because losing weight does make you feel amazing) then he should be able to accept that. I have had this same discussion with my partner and he told me that no matter what size I am, he will still love me. You should be losing weight for you and nobody else.
Maybe he feels like you are a completely different person now that you have lost weight. Good on you for losing the weight.
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I work in a warehouse packing Nike products. Before this, I was studying business/Marketing but decided to leave because I just wasn’t happy. I felt like I wasn’t going anywhere with it because there were so many students that I had to compete with and to me, I just felt like a number.
I wouldn’t say I love my job, but it pays the bills and I hope to one day own a family business and put my skills into practise. Currently I am still just trying to find my place in the world and the only thing I just seem interested in is dancing.
It sounds like a lot of you ladies have it figured out.
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Hahahaha jag that is very true. I’ll do the same thing. My fiancé doesn’t like it though because he always wants to try to be the man.
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Very true. I think I would be able to progress more at a studio. Might have a look into it this weekend. 🙂
Unfortunately, I don’t have a lot of time during the week to practise so all my pole time is on the weekend.
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Yeah I had a look at Bobbi's studio, there isn't a studio in Melbourne unfortunately. And I agree, most women tend to focus on how they look instead of accepting the skin they are in. I am so guilty of this and my fiance' is always telling me not to worry about what people think of me, but sometimes I can't help it.
I'm starting to like the idea of taking up lessons from a studio because I'm having trouble structuring my lessons at home. Is it better to have a friend go with you?
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Ok thanks, will have a look
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Very true. Media tend to be unrealistic and make people feel bad about the skin they are in.
As for cellulite, I find that after I have done a workout, it disappears but then comes back again.
Since starting pole dancing, it has helped me be comfortable in my own skin, but as I am only doing it at home, I am starting to feel that I need to be more challenged and finding it hard to set goals for myself.
Can anyone recommend a good studio in Melbourne, Victoria (Australia)?
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Thanks for a reply. Yeah I’ve been hip hop dancing for 7 years and started pole dancing 2 months ago. I’ve lost weight in the past and have only just learnt the art of maintaining my weight.
Everyone in my life knows that I pole dance and they don’t have a problem with it (lucky for me), but if strangers give me a weird look, I’ll defend my choice of pole dancing and attempt to inform them.
It’s good that you’ve lost weight on a balanced diet. I’m not a big fan of the word diet, I think if you are going to lose weight, make it your lifestyle.
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Alicia very valid point. When I first started dating my fiancé, I would also get worked up about it. ( he personally doesn’t like seeing strippers) but I would always tell him how I felt about it because I knew it would always come up eventually.
The best thing to do is be calm and talk to him about your concerns. Tell him why you don’t want him to go and then the ball is in his court. It is up to him to respect your wishes. It would be so much easier if there were no outside influences.
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As quoted by phoebe from friends ‘strippers are so cliche, get a magician or something’. Each to their own, but I thought doing something that means more than seeing boobies at your bachelor party would be so much more memorable and fun?
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1. There is a difference between exotic and pole fitness, as CapFeb mentioned, they both include a pole however exotic pole dance is more focused on sexy movement whereas pole fitness is more focused on advanced movement.
2. I believe it is up to the individual whether or not they have a stage name. In some cases, it is important to protect the dancer because of the nature of pole dancing.
3. I am open about pole dancing. This may be because the people around me are also open about me doing pole dancing for fitness. I understand that people will have a negative view on it and if they do, I will attempt to explain more about it to them because they obviously don't have a wide range of knowledge of pole dancing.
4. Again, there will always be people who have a negative opinion of pole dancing and only because they don't have extensive knowledge on it. I do believe that pole dancing can be athletic and artistic and therefore shouldn't be turned away from the youth. I like to refer to the pole as a vertical beam. People should also consider that there are vertical poles in playgrounds and they aren't classed as sexual. The only reason pole dancing is classed as sexual is because of the way it is used by exotic dancers and people can't seem to get that image out of their heads.
5. To be honest, anyone can search the net for anything these days. I'm sure anyone under the age of 18 has seen more than what is accessed on studioveena. I do believe that maybe there should be an under 18 section on this site though.
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Hi,
I have just read this and you are a brilliant writer. I could not have said it better myself.
Anywho, I have had the same discussion with my fiancé and it can be a big deal in a relationship. I find it to be a very taboo subject and because of that, it needs to be discussed.
I have the very same issue about my fiancé going to strip clubs. He doesn’t like them either and knows how I feel about them.
I might also add that to those that will say things such as “everyone does it”, you wouldn’t allow your man to get intimate with a girl that he met at a club, so what makes a strip club any different? I also believe that in a relationship, you should not put yourself in a tempting situation. My views are the same as yours, I don’t make judgement on women that allow their partner to go to a strip club and therefore I believe I should receive the same respect back.
The fact that it has become a norm makes it very hard on the women that don’t appreciate their man seeing strippers.
This conversation came up in my relationship a few times and more or less at the start of our relationship.
I’ve had his uncle tell him to have a stripper at his bachelor party and quote unquote “the stripper is what makes the party”. He handled it very well. I wasn’t there but he told me later that day. I completely understand where you are coming from and it can make it difficult when some people don’t care or respect your relationship. At the end of the day, you are coming home to him and vice versa, which means any outside comments should be thrown out.
I am very glad you brought this topic up because there are a lot of women that get put in the same situation.
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Age: 21
I have been pole dancing for only 2 months.
I have been hip hop dancing for 7 years and decided it would be a good idea to try a new dance genre
I had been thinking about pole dancing for about a year and did a lot of research. That’s when I found studio veena. I then decided to buy my own xpole for my home and do online pole classes. I wanted to also jump out of my comfort zone and feel confident in my own skin.
Pole dancing gives me a sense of individualism and empowerment. It is a world where I can free my mind from reality. It allows me to move my body in a way that I thought was impossible for me and with every improvement comes more confidence.