CrazyKosters
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This is probably something she has dealt with her whole life. Maybe some past issues. I’m a total nervous Nelly about things, meaning i dwell on things I don’t need to. It is something that has been with me as long as i can remember. Maybe her lifestyle growing up she was ridiculed by the people around her or maybe should could never be “good enough” etc.. People also are addicted to their own emotions in a sense. Something needs to break this cycle of self criticism and it wont happen until she realizes it and wants to stop just like any other addiction. I would bet she is like this in other aspects of her life.
I agree, if she wants to continue to perform then she needs to perform more. A LOT more. Try some local bars or clubs that do burlesque or variety shows if you are around any. I know I would be nervous as hell and would dwell on it if I messed up but I also would not let it ruin my night.
The thing that helps me when I am self criticising myself and dwelling on things, is to keep telling myself that everyone sees things differently, no ones brain and perception is the same. That what I am thinking now, is not what other people are thinking. I have my own memories and they have theirs.
When you don’t think about the past, whether it is a minute ago or 10 years ago, it doesn’t exist (metaphorically speaking) at least the way you would remember it because someone else remembers it different. Sounds cheesy but I truly believe in the power of the mind and suggestion. The hard part is getting your self to believe it.Sounds to me though that she might not be the best candidate to put on public performances, at least not yet or until she gets professional help. If you’ve tried talking to her and reassuring her etc.. and it does no good and she gets frustrated and grumpy and dwells on mistakes, then it might not be a bad idea to try to get her to see a psychologist. Performing or speaking in public is huge anxiety for a lot of people. She just responds in her own may. I personally think it sounds like it is deeper and more of a borderline personality disorder.
I have no credentials except plenty of experience with mental health issues and personal experience with a few friends,family, and myself. I have had a crazy crazy life and been through some shit! In fact, people that no me and my past have always said you turned out really good, most people would be a sociopath, dead, or in prison. We all have our life story, but dwelling on things, especially the past and the things you can not change,like mistakes that have already happened, only exacerbates the condition. Which is why she probably should not perform if it is doing this to her. I wouldn’t want to always feel like that so i wouldn’t put myself in that situation.
Have you introduced her to here? lol, I know it has helped my confidence a lot!! Just thought I would share my 2 cents. Hope everything works out and good luck with the performance!
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I don’t have kids yet but my friends kids play on it. I posted a vid a while ago and so has many of us! I love watching those vids 🙂
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I personally think it is a great thing if used in the right context. How do we change the world and peoples perceptions? Our children. An example, if every child in the world had never seen a lick of violence, think how the world would be when they grow up and take over.. They take what they learn from us and if we shame it to them, or make it seem like a bad thing then what does that say? If all us polers kids grew up knowing the truth about this sport or dance etc.. then that will be that many more people who are not ignorant to it if that makes sense. I have a hard time explaining things!! Lol
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Happy b-day!
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Just looked it up. Looks like something I would want but I read the installation and instructions and it seems like a hassle for me anyways because I want something I could take on and off without removing the pole (unless I read it wrong?) I would use it just for pose and strength practice. I was hoping it was something more easy to take on and off not to mention if you have a 45mm pole then it will make it a 50mm. I have a 50 and am downgrading to a 45 soon so a 55 would be out of the question lol and I don’t want a 40mm either.
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Well said Dustbunny!
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Rock climbing sounds fun, there is a place close to my house. I’ll have to check it out. Trapeze is good to for something different every once in a while. I took a beginner aerial class once (want to go back) and the silks kicked my butt!
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I have never tried crossfit and can’t hardly get myself to a gym. I have only stuck with pole and pole related things. I do pole,floorwork,yoga,pilates etc.. When I am sore or can’t/shouldn’t pole, I do floorwork and such with stretching to practice and condition etc.. Make sure you give yourself rest days from working out and stretching though.
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Not sure but I know i use rubbing alcohol on mine. Some use spirits like vodka. Others use things like vinegar, and natural stuff so as not to irritate the skin. We use rubbing alcohol on the studio poles as well. I like how it cleans most of the time. I know places like xpole sell their own cleaners as well.
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Hi! Welcome 🙂 Your in the right place, it is a great community 🙂
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Welcome! You found the right place!! 🙂
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I get this to sometimes when trying to straighten my legs etc. And they pop, so do my hips. Don’t know how to get rid of it but I know it isn’t as bad when i’m really warmed up and stretched.
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I’m gonna try to go to the pole expo in vegas. Hope I can make it!!
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That sucks! I would contact facebook and maybe they can fix it or at least let you know if thats what happened. Maybe if you explain that you thought it was an error and you won’t do it again they will give it back? Not sure.
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I do post them here. I only post certani ones to fscebook. I just wasn’t sure if the share link here would result in it being removed like when you post it directly to facebook. I will use this feature in the future. Like I said though, only certain vids get posted to facebook, i don’t post to much pole stuff there, I save that for here 🙂