[dannielletaylor2609]

Thank you so much for your courage! I like you struggle everyday with poor body image and soome days poling make it better and some days my mind gets the best of me and makes it worse.

What a couple of people have already said is true, A lot of what you see on IG are cultivated it’s the best of a performance or the best of session. Remember that what may be awkward to you may be amazing to someone else as well. And years from now you will look back and be amazed at how far you’ve come.

I also agree that u have to find clothing that works for you. I now pole in a dance skirt that has pole shorts attached. I original bought it to cone my thighs a bit but found that it gives me freedom to move without being self conscious. And it glows in the dark so that is fun.

And here is my two cents, what I didn’t know when I started poling is there are all different types of poling and polers They are some pole sisters that love power moves and are amazing with the inverts and hangs and such while there are others are a beautiful contemporary polers just like ballerinas and then there are some who are so slinky and sexy you’d think they had no bones!!! Find a style that make you feel confident! I didn’t think I would like erotic style but I sooo do while the power style is harder for me I’m 5’7 290lbs so the simple power stuff like pulling up and climbing is my nemesis.

And lastly, be kind to yourself. Find one thing you like in your videos and celebrate it even something a simple as my arm looked beautiful extended and have a powerful effect. Sorry for the length but your post was like finding a kindred spirit. Thanks to everyone else who shared as well. I plan to follow you guys on IG, I’m @curvypolegoddess if anyone wants to follow back. Like so many of us I have barely posted but maybe we should use this to do like a posting challenge or something with basic moves, sometimes those can be the prettiest.