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Huh. I see why that bit about due to their own negligence is a little unsettling. My YMCA had a similar contract with that exact phrasing in it actually. It made me uncomfortable. So I went in o talk to them about it and I signed a new contract without that phrase. That being said I’m not sure how typical that situation is, and I’ve noticed that most studios in my areas are limited liability corporations. Not sure if that by default means that legally they are excused from their negligence. I agree that it’s best to go in and talk to them.
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I made the mistake of asking the author why she was ignoring Steven Retchless or Blue Phoenix. She said it doesn’t matter that men where heels, because they can never be empowered by them as they are already on top…..Because she can determine what empowers people and who feels empowered by what
…also thats like me saying white people can’t do things that empower them because they’re already on top and anything that I do that empowers me wouldn’t empower them because they don’t need it….-_-
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Also don’t these so-called feminist have bigger issues to solve….instead of attacking those they claim to support.
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Wow. I couldn’t even finish the article. What a bullying, hectoring piece of half baked drivel. Laced with equal measures of ignorance and venom. Merciful heavens how the writing standards have fallen.
These are the feminists who give others a really bad name. Jeez. Instead of celebrating how women AND MEN have come to find solace and community in pole, this person tears it down, because it is not how she would choose to empower herself. That is not feminism. That is ignorance, and when you spout ignorance and repackage it as empowerment you are the one is is the fraud and the oppressor. Not us. -
Thank you Veena,
I will keep that in mind! I was beginning to wonder if the fact that it was taking me so long was in itself a bad sign. And Ill definitely have to take a look at the flow motion routine. A stretch and a fluid routine? Sounds like a win-win! -
Thank you so much for your reply Runemist! And actually hearing that it may just take more time is not frustrating at all. It makes me feel a lot better and feel as though I’m not doing it wrong and wasting my time in the long run. That makes me feel a lot better that it took some people 5 years. Haha there’s still hope for me yet. Haha and thanks you so much! I used to have the tiniest calves with really large thighs and then pole evened them out for me haha. And my hips are still a mess, popping all the time and tightening back up the instant I stop stretching them.
As for stretching time, this is going to sound a little odd, but in my office I keep a spare pair of leggings and I change into them and on the days when I know I’ll be too tired to stretch when I go home I go into my lab (don’t feel like walking to the gym and no one goes into my lab) and just spend time stretching and decompressing. When I do make it home, I usually watch something on netflix before/after I make dinner or finish my work. Its during these time when the tv is on I try to stretch instead of just lounging on the couch.
For hips I do this short youtube video before I go to bed
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hsPUAppdfqs, takes about ~13 minutes. And if you memorize which pose comes next you can do it at your own speed -
That is really really shitty that the students just waited until your back was turned to leave. How can you adjust something to someone’s needs if they don’t vocalize them, and then just slink out the instant they are out of view? Disrespectful. And then they didn’t have anything specific to say???….Okay. That’s jacked up.
To be honest I never really liked mixed level classes. In my experience, the beginners often get distracted or intimidated by the advanced students or the advanced students feel “held back” They seem to me very challenging to teach, because there is not a specific focus that can apply to everyone. So I definitely think that doing a flow and transition class was a great idea. Unfortunately some people only ever want to do tricks, (I used to be that way, but I grew up and got over myself). Anyway I digress, what I am trying to say is that from my perspective it seems as though you did the best with what you were given, and it sucks that that those there were too juvenile to take advantage of it. -
It is a zoo, there are thousands of people there. I can’t remember how many exactly, but I was told it was in the thousands. Make sure you warm up before your workshops on your own time. The instructors will do a little warm up, but time is short and there are usually (for the more popular workshop) around 20-30 people between 10-15 poles, so instructors like to get down to business quickly which may mean a shorter warm up. AC in the hard rock hotel is no joke. It was FREEZING in some of the rooms, which made it hard to stick to the pole. Bring layers and lots of grip aid. Also if you stay at the hard rock, make sure you go over your bill when you check out. They made a mistake on mine and tried to not return my security deposit…still working that out a year later -_-
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For me personally, I feel very unstable in twisted grip (I think it has something to do with my wrists) I can ayesha, shoulder mount, and straight edge just fine in it, but I avoid because (at least for me) the temptation is to just chuck all my body weight into my shoulder. That’s why I much prefer cup grip. I love cup grip all day every day! Cup grip iron x, cup grip shoulder mount, cup grip ayesha. It keeps me from resting on my rotator cuffs and stressing out my wrists. But that being said I got the main vibe that the biggest problem with twisted grip was people launching themselves into it without being aware of the necessary muscle engagements to prevent injury. I think it can be done safely as long as you are conscious of what you are doing.
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I’m glad you have this discussion with your son! It’s alarming to me how easy and common it is for people to dismiss the feelings of others. Mad props to you! and I know at times I am guilty of it too. But each time a take a moment to take myself out of my shoes and be more compassionate I learn something new!
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That is just terrible! I am so very sorry you experienced such treatment. In a word its just foul. Some instructors don’t seem to understand that the reason they exist is because of their pupils. Swearing at someone when they are attempting a move is completely unprofessional and uncalled for. Jeez. I understand why you didn’t make a scene in the movement, because who wants to make an experience they already paid for even worse. I would contact the studio just to leave feedback and let them know directly. I think I have an idea of which studio you’re talking about and if it is the one I am thinking of, they should definitely know better. It may be hard to teach, but its not hard to be gracious. So that half should AT LEAST have been there. And it wasn’t. Seems as if they completely missed the mark. Shame shame. I’ve no patience for diva instructors who forget that is about the student and not them.
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Not a problem! so very sorry it took so long! I’ve finally pulled myself out of work induced hyberbnation and gotten on the pole!
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I must be blunt. The whole “It’s all about your intentions” and “People will look into anything to get offended.” Is a cop out. As mature, aware individuals of society it is our obligation to think about what we say and how it can denigrate or marginalize other members of society. We can have the best intentions in the world, but you know what? If our words, our mentalities, or our actions are still putting other people down…then out intentions don’t mean anything. And i guess at the end of the day you have to decide what matters more. Your feelings on your intentions or the people who are hurt or put down by what you said. For me the second is more important. And honestly hoe hard it is to not qualify something? How hard is it to post a picture of yourself in instagram and leave it at that?
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Hear hear Phoenix! I completely agree. Haven’t we learn from history, plessy vs ferguson, for example that when we separate, we do it, because we don’t believe it to be equal? And the fact that someone feels the need to preemptively declare that they not a stripper before someone even asks shows a strong (and mostly defensive) desire to herald that they are most certainly not associated with that. Not good.
Also there is more than one way to respect your body, and just because some people take off their clothes or do things that you wouldn’t doesn’t mean that they don’t have respect for themselves. I know plenty of strippers who have a lot of self-respect and to say that if you strip, you don’t respect yourself is not a fair assessment. It is an assessment based on your own experience, which can’t reliably be applied to everyone. Some people find stripping cathartic, freeing, and a way to express their body love. This does not mean they don’t have self respect. That’s the thing about self respect. You your “self” define it for you.
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At the end of the day, pole should bring us together not pull us apart. I completely agree with the person who said pole is for whomever wants to do it. And at the end of the day were all connected by it. And that’s what we should focus on