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That story I saw on asexuals actually featured a married couple where both the man and woman were asexual, so obviously they cared about each other, just not sex. They actually had  kids together because they'd wanted kids, so sex to them was purely for breeding purposes, and as soon as they had all the kids they wanted, sex was a total non-issue. So it is true that no matter how much some people care about their partner, they just don't want to sleep with them. It's just odd to think about from the perspective of someone who is not asexual, because obviously you want that connection with your partner and can't imagine not wanting it. I didn't even know asexuality really existed until a few years ago. I imagine it's probably fairly rare; people have different sex drives, some a lot lower than others, and that can change throughout life especially for women with menopause and whatnot, but most people at some point have some desire for sex. Does anyone know, statistically speaking, how common asexuality is? On the same level as homosexuality, more, less? I'm just curious; I've never known anyone who was asexual. Actually, most of the people I've known have gone the other way. lol 

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The caterpillar and caterpillar climb are tricky moves–much harder than they seem to be, at least to me. When I first tried it I watched some online lessons on the move (not Veena's,) then started practicing and while I don't think I ever had any falls, it was very difficult and I had a lot of near misses. It was a move I shelved for a while because it just wasn't making any sense, and then I watched Veena's lesson, tacked it again, and all of a sudden within a few tries I could do it. Something she said in her video just really made everything come together for me.

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Thanks for your replies guys! Cocoa, if it was purely for grip purposes I would probably just continue to tough it out with my ss, but the pole is also static only, and I want to try spin mode. I'm sure there are disadvantages to a multi-piece, but there are also disadvantages to having to find some place to stick an eight foot piece of metal where it's out of the way if I need my living room. I also want to travel with it–I will probably (hopefully, if everything turns out the way I want it to,) be moving within a year or two, and it would be a lot easier to travel with an X pole than the Lil' Mynx. I also want to be able to take it over to my sister's apartment, and the Lil' Mynx isn't really one you can do that with, since you'd have to be drilling into ceilings everywhere you take it, obviously.

I've used multiple grip aids, I've lightly sanded it–which did make it grippier, the only problem is that it still often feels like it's sweating. It did that the other day while I was trying to practice extended butterfly combinations, and I was having a lot of trouble slipping around. There's fairly grippy pole underneath what feels like a layer of slime, and this happens all the time. I think it's a combination of the climate and my sweaty hands. It's finally starting to warm up a little here, but it's still been pretty cold some days, which isn't helping. And the weather is very dry, no matter whether it's cold or hot; we have pretty much zero humidity.

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Yep yep–so true. I have yet to come across a guy who won't give me the time of day because I have small breasts. Men just like boobs, end of story. My boyfriend dated a girl for a few months before me who had huge breasts–DDD's, I think, maybe bigger, and four or five months after they broke up, he downsized to an A. lol It obviously doesn't bother him–he loves my boobs because they are, well, boobs.

Look at it this way–if you have even the teeniest tiniest hint of something in the chest area that might be considered breasts, men love it. We women are the only ones who get so bent out of shape over the girls.

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MissKitty–a 32 DD?! Oh my God–it's hard enough trying to find a 34 in an A cup–I can't imagine trying to find an even smaller band size in a DD cup!

Most girls I see with large breasts tend to be bigger, and most smaller girls tend to have smaller breasts because a lot of it does have to do with amount of body fat, however I definitely agree that genetics can play a big role; I had a friend in high school who had three sisters and all of the woman in their family had really small ribcages–she had me try on her sister's old wedding dress because she was trying to sell it and I was the smallest person she knew, and I literally could not zip it up all the way because my ribcage was too wide, and I'm not big by any stretch of the imagination. All of them had breasts that were pretty proportionate to their body size except her oldest sister, who was at least a DD if not larger from what I remember, and she was tiny–at least my size except a little smaller around the ribcage. She had a hell of a time fitting anything and always had to have her clothing altered to fit her breasts.

And seriously, what is it with girls with large breasts basically having to wear grandma bras? Do bra makers think they don't deserve nice bras like the rest of us? 

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Congrats for taking the plunge! You'll do just fine, dance background or no dance background.

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Welcome to the forum and to pole dancing! Veena's lessons are amazing; the closest studios to me are a three hour drive each way, so I'm stuck with teaching myself, and the lessons have been amazing. I've gotten several intermediate and even a few advanced moves within just a couple of tries, and though I'm generally a quick learner, I chalk the vast majority of it up to how well Veena lays everything out. I've never made a better purchase in my life. (Aside from buying a pole of course. lol)

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Definitely take probitotics, and limit your sugar–bacteria thrives on sugar. And yes, like has already been mentioned, your guy could be reinfecting you–guys can carry stuff like that and it doesn't bother them the way it does us ladies. I read that it's actually easier for women to contract STD's because of how well bacteria and viruses can flourish in that area. He definitely needs to be treated.

Also, after the thread on whether underwear is worn under pole shorts and the one I started about smashing your lady parts on your pole, I'm not sure TMI is really an issue on this forum. lmao

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I personally love having small boobs; I'm an exercise nut and big breasts would just get in my way. My sister is quite busty (D cup) and always has been–she was an early bloomer and had pretty good-sized breasts already by the time she was only 9 or 10. She hates them–they're uncomfortable, she can't find nice bras in her size (not to mention, good quality bras are really expensive in that size,) and she always has to buy her tops a couple of sizes bigger than she actually is just to fit her boobs. Seems like a big hassle to me, which is why I've never even considered implants. 

I know a lot of girls with small boobs are self-concious about them, but there's no reason to be; I'm a proud A cup. It's all about finding the right shirts and bras to flatter them. Plus, small boobs are generally nice and perky, and you can find lots of nice bras in smaller sizes. Also, chances are that while you're envying someone with a big ol' set of girls, they're probably envying you right back; I had a friend who used to be small-chested like me, then had two kids and now she's probably at least a DD, and she was actually jealous of my boobs and wanted smaller ones back. 

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I think any competition that has ever been invented, regardless of what it is judging, has probably had to deal with this sort of thing sooner or later. It's human nature; if someone's favorite doesn't win, they sometimes get mad and decide that it couldn't possibly be fair because how could anyone else win when this pole dancer is the most amazing, talented, flexible, graceful, etc. etc. etc. dancer they have ever seen and anyone who doesn't agree with them is obviously blind or cheating. It is ridiculous, but it's just the way some people are. I love Felix, but there are pole dancers just as talented as her, and at a place like Worlds, those polers are there because they are the best in the world–which to me means that the title is up for grabs by anyone, not that one dancer is automatically entitled to it just because I like them the best.

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It's pretty unlikely that you won't ever fall, especially as you start getting into more intermediate and advanced moves. Scary, but you just get back up and try again. As long as you are safe, i.e. using a spotter or some sort of crash mat or both with new moves until you are totally comfortable with them, you will minimalize injury. I've fallen several times–once out of a butterfly when I was first learning it, and to this day I'm still not sure what happened–I was on the pole and then suddenly on the ground. I think I stupidly let go with my leg or something, but it happened so quickly I really don't know.

I had two falls recently within the past couple of weeks; one was from a shoulder mount (which I have done about 8 million times,) and jarred me but didn't really hurt anything, since I feel onto carpet and wasn't very far up. I always, always automatically just flip my hair out of the way, but for some reason I didn't do that this time, so when I pulled up into the SM, I had a slippery mass of hair instead of a nice grippy shoulder waiting, and needless to say I did a nice little drop right onto the floor. It was just one of those duh moments that happen sometimes.

The other one happened yesterday night, from a superman; I had just scrubbed my pole down really good with alcohol, which makes it pretty grippy for a few moves, and when I tried to transfer over into a superman from a side v, my thigh skin stuck in placeand instead of slipping right into it like usual, I lost the hold and came down awkwardly, though on my feet luckily. The superman is a newer move for me, but I'm to the point where I'm perfectly comfortable performing it, I'm just polishing it a bit and trying to get my thighs used to the burn, so basically it was just another oopsie move.

Don't stress too much about it–like I said just be safe, and if you do fall, just know that it happens to pretty much all of us, regardless of ability.

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Empy–ow! Yikes.

Yes, the ideal is definitely to be able to stretch all the way out and be able to walk in a circle without hitting anything–that's what I initially did to make sure I had plenty of room when I first set up my pole, but when you have multiple poles that's usually not an option. Just set them as far apart as you can, and if you don't have much space, you guys may just have to take turns on certain moves that require more room.

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bebealles–ow ow ow ow ow!

Ha ha ha Veena–as much as most of the men in our lives would probably like to imagine that pole dancing turns us into these super sexual creatures that want to do it all the time because we are so in touch with our sexuality now, little do they know that the pole is actually sneakily undermining their libidos…there have been nights when I'll barely let my boyfriend look at me, because my thighs are so bruised/pole burned from practicing new moves for hours that I don't even want him getting the faintest idea to put some moves on me. Sex for pole dancers must go something like this: "Fine honey, but don't touch here, here, or here. Ow! Not there either. No, I'm not getting on top–rolling over might chafe my thighs. You know what, I'll just lie here in fetal position and you figure something out."

slw1977–Holy crap, can you imagine trying to explain that? I would probably just lie and say I jumped from a burning building or something and accidentally landed in the splits on concrete. lol I always wonder what I'm going to say if I injure myself poling, especially if it's in kind of an odd way–I really don't want to have to go the hospital or a doctor's office and explain that I smashed my hoo ha because I was joking around and wildly humping my pole.

I actually need to schedule a physical pretty soon, and I was thinking the other day how bad it's going to look to my doctor if my thighs haven't healed by then; I have a good-sized bruise and several burn marks from practicing the superman.

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I always thought of asexual as relating more to absolutely no interest in sex? Maybe I'm wrong–I just remember seeing a news story (60 Minutes or something like that,) on it once, and if I remember correctly, that's what they were getting at. I don't think it's necessarily that asexuals aren't attracted to either men or women, just that any relationships they are in whether gay or straight are not of a sexual nature. If I'm interpreting that correctly, anyway.

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Don't let anyone let you feel like crap for not forgiving her for whatever she did. I know we're supposed to forgive and forget, yadda yadda yadda, but after a while constantly forgiving someone who continuously screws you over is just stupid. Your feelings should matter too.

Does the rest of your family feel the way you do and they're just not very confrontational, or do they think you're overreacting or something?