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I'm another Makeupalley fan. Love, love, love that site. I'm also a product junkie, so I too spend a lot of time on there to give my wallet a break. And Meleania, that Salux cloth is fabulous.
I have several fave beauty products but don't have time to list them all since I've got to head off to work in a few minutes. However, I will say that I love African Black Soap as a face wash. No chemicals, it cleans beautifully without drying out my skin, and it hates zits. Can't go wrong with that.
Also, I've heard such great things about the Clarisonic that I really kind of want one, but it's so expensive. I've been reading a lot of reviews on it lately to try and decide if it's worth it.
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Betsyevil, he's being very disrespectful, not to mention unsafe if he's grabbing at you like that while you're on the pole. He shouldn't be doing anything that makes you uncomfortable–while my BF ticks me off sometimes with his attitude toward sex, he never tries to make me do stuff I'm uncomfortable with. I think the naked pictures are crossing a line–it's perfectly normal for you to not be comfortable having those taken (I mean, how many times does stuff like that wind up on the internet?) and he shouldn't be getting mad at you for refusing to practice pole in a way that you're not comfortable with. Pole is your thing–I doubt you got it for him, and it shouldn't be made into something that's awkward and uncomfortable for you.
Honestly, the grabbing at you while you're on the pole thing really concerns me. He could actually injure you if you fall while you're in an awkward position, or even if he causes you to slip–I have to deal with sweaty hands, so I know all about slipping, and I've just narrowly avoiding straining muscles a couple of times from the abrupt jerking motions that can come with it. Pole should be your me time unless you've made the decision to dance for him, and I don't think he should be interfering in it like that. Have you tried talking to him about it at all? Is he aware how uncomfortable he's making you and the potential safety hazards of trying to grab you while you're practicing?
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Yeah, my boyfriend likes to glare at men looking at me. I don't even notice them, but he sure does! I don't really get it–I always point out to him that if he finds me attractive, doesn't he think there's a chance other guys will too?
Ginger, I hate the 'just get it over with and let me go to sleep' feeling, but I also hate the pouty attitude that's probably going to take its place if they don't get any. I guess it's the wounded sort of 'oh, what, you don't want me?' vibe. Sometimes, I'm just too tired/run down/whatever, you know? It seems like men take it as a personal affront or something. I'm not trying to reject him, I just need some rest. I mean, I wouldn't be upset if he told me he was feeling really shitty and just wanted to roll over and go to sleep.
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Yes, communication is really what it comes down to, but God, men are so HARD sometimes to actually communicate with, you know? I mean, seriously, where's the manual?
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Oh, and that video was absolutely hilarious, and so true! LMAO
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I'm glad to hear I'm not alone, Deesse Jesse. Honestly, my BF is a good guy overall, but it really, really ticks me off when he acts like this.
I did talk to him and flat out told him I thought he was acting like an asshole about the whole subject, and he apologized and said he was joking around and did not realize that I was taking him seriously. In his defense, while I can usually recognize his sarcasm, having been with him for five years now, sometimes he does have a very deadpan delivery and it even slips by me. (I've had to explain to people before that he's only joking about something because they're offended, and he's just oblivious and doesn't even realize they don't get that he's screwing around.) However, I tried explaining to him that it wasn't just what he was saying, it was the way he acted sometimes, and I'm not sure he totally understood, but I guess at least I spoke my mind about it.
The problem is, I think most men are a teeny bit possessive when it comes to their wives or girlfriends–not in the creepy, over-possessive way of an abusive boyfriend or husband, but even the best of them have a little bit of the 'this is mine' mindset. But actually, my body is MINE, not his, and I can do whatever I want with it. He doesn't have the same freedom. And like I said, I am not an at-his-convenience blow-up doll.
Lyme Lyte, I'm sorry to hear about your Lyme disease. My sister contracted it a long time ago, but luckily was treated very shortly afterward and never ended up with any lingering issues. It can have some quite nasty side effects, from what I know of it.
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Me too!
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I always start off poling bare-handed, but it ususally gets to a point where I'm just so frustrated that it's either use something, or not get any practice done because I'm slipping and sliding all over the place. I've tried several grip aids and found that most of them come off before I can get through a whole song, so for me at least, gloves seem to be my best option. I've just always been a heavy sweater with any type of physical activity, unfortunately.
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Hahaha! You know you're a pole dancer when… 😉
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And, of course, there is always this classic:
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I love that one! Boy's got some moves. 😉
This is another favorite of mine (although it does annoy me that they spelled pole wrong lol) :
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Falling correctly can sometimes literally be the difference between life and death. It's going to take her a while to come back from all her injuries, but at least she's alive.
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I'm glad to hear she's doing better. A brutal reminder that drinking and poling do NOT mix.
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Yeah, that drop in the video was pretty amazing. Unfortunately, even the best of us screw up sometimes–shit just happens. I really hope she pulls through.
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Ceilings themselves shift and settle, and anytime you practice (especially on spin mode) you're loosening the pole a little. It needs to be checked for tightness every time you or a friend gets on it, and it's a good idea to check it every so often during a longer practice session as well. Any pole can come down, but they're safe as long as you install them properly and just remember to check them before practice.