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OHHHH what a great idea!! I remeber when I first started out I must have googled every possible phrase to find good songs to pole to lmao…luv the idea…now how do we do it?? lol
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Thanks Monary, Im happy to hear that she makes sure her stretches are safe, and I am glad that she is one of the people that make sure you do't get hurt while following her program. From her ratings and from what I am hearing from you, she sounds legit in what she teaches. There are so many diffrennt theories on stretching/flexibility and what works and what doesn't. I know the foam rollers are getting lots of attention too and that was something else I was thinking of before running into her DVD's In the end I just wanna be bendy lol Whatever gets me there the safest is a go in my book.
I actually had an injury back in september while exiting out of a split, not beccause of the split but I have bad knees (they click whenever i walk especially up steps and Im only 26! Dr's say i need an MRI on it and insurance company wont pay cuz the xray looks fine…never ending case of wth is wrong with ME?? lmao) Anyways the knee dislocated and i had to take about 4 weeks of from stretching and now i lost my ability to get into a split grrr… But I also have my eye on some basic contortion moves that i would LOVE to be able to do. I don't need to be able to do all the wild and crazy stuff but I would really like to nail the chest stand and that standing scorpian thing lol and Staceys newer DVD looks like it can help with that type of training. So the fact you said the DVD you have was safe on your knees means a lot!
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I happen to be one of the people who get stretch marks from anything, and I mean anything! I literally can spot stretchmarks just about anywhere on my body, even near my ankles!! (yes, ankles and it was from sunburn that swelled my skin on my calves and ankles, and yep, when the sunburn faded the stretch marks appeared ) My sister is the same way, and always been slim, she's never weighed more than about 150 and yet the poor girl has stretch marks on her hips and thighs like crazy. It believe its partly genetic, I am an A cup and have stretch marks on my boobs for crying out loud lmao!! So if you get stretchmarks easily I would think you would get a few more from poling, particularly in places where your gripping with your skin and depending on friction to hold you. I wish there was a secret to making them dissapear for good, if anyone knows of a secret potion let me know lol I can't say that I have noticed any new stretch marks lately from poling but I wouldnt count myself in the clear, however if your one of the lucky ones who made it through pregnancy without any at all, I'de consider yourself safe, if a baby belly dont do it for ya, the pole prob wont either 🙂 Mine started appearing when I was about 11 years old and I was always slim, so once I had my first child years later, my body was for sure doomed as I gained more weight than I wish to admit lmao
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Thanks everyone for your input https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_biggrin.gif You all have some great points and have def made me look at it from the stand point that IF I AM uncomfortable with it than why do it. It's also nice to see I wasn't the only one who was on the fence with the issue lol I guess it's all about our own indiviadual preferenaces and level of comfotability. For those who do rock the pole on Youtube, I think ur all great and so inspiring https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_heart1.gif For now, I think Imma stay in my comfort zone here on SV, maybe one day when I get more tricks under my belt I'll post on youtube so it's doesn't have to be all sexy like Emotioncatcher suggested. Thanks again ladies… happy poling!!
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I had a fall last summer doing the shoulder mount. It was a really hot sticky day and I was doing the shoulder mount, when I got to the point where my legs could grasp the pole my hands cupped off the pole (due to sweat) and I fell, tucking my head in saved me but to this day I stil have back pain every now and then that I believe was from the fall. I have succesfully shoulder mounted after that but it is a move that I have "lost" for now since I tend to be scared of my hands cupping off again 🙁 As with anything I put my mind to, I wont give up or give in, but I have given that move a rest for now, and will relearn it when I shake the fear lol
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IN LOVE with this post …This is the best!!! Thanks for posting this, it gave me such a good laugh 🙂 Can I add one more lol… "when you find your flipping your hair and practicing seated body rolls while in the car stopped at a red light" or ummm am I the only one who does this?? https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_confused.gif LMAO
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Its totally normal sweetie, dont give up!! I used to be able to do the shoulder mount and then one day I tried and couldnt even get my feet more than 10 inches off the ground. No matter how many times I work on that move I feell like its never coming back…as a matter of fact I was better at it the first time I eveer tried it than I am now!! Its super frustrating but I've learned to stop focusing on it…I give it a try every now and then some days I feel likee crying cuz it seems so far gone and then boom, I'll surprise myself and get just a little better..but my time and energy is no longer wasted on redundantly trying to master it…theres a ton of stuff I cant do, so I work on a move or two and just have fun dancing with the moves I do have totally down already. When ur really in need of a pick up put on a good song, forget the move all together and just do what flows from you and dont forget to glance in the mirror at your self 🙂 Dont throw in the towel over one move, not when you have already come so far! Celebrate what you have accomplished so far girl!!
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Great advice everyone!
I'll def chime in with Sair, eating clean works! I fell off the wagon of eating clean and man did my body respond in a bad way, I gained 10 pounds just like that and am near close to having insomnia again. Eating clean keeps your body satisfied on what it needs, the concept is that when you eat processed food, your body soon sends hunger signals again because the nurients it needs are not being met, but when you eat whole foods, such as fruits, veggies, whole grains, avoid white refined sugars breads and pastas, drink plenty of water and avoid atificial sweeteners, something amazing happens….your body is back to optimal function and you have energy, many find they get better rest, hormones becomes balanced and the weight will fall off at about 2 pounds a week, all without calorie counting!
I go on the eating clean website from time to time for recipe ideas and inspiring stories, but mainly I just eat when I am hungry (I am a big eater too!) eat whole grain pasta, bread, fruits, veggies, chicken, eggs. nuts, stirfrys…you name it and the weight comes off! Its not a "diet" just like Sair said, its common sense eating somehow ppl made a way to market that lol
Also…I go to http://www.thegraciouspantry.com/ for great eating clean recipe when ever I feel I need a recipe change…Im not just talking salad here, she has recipes for brownies, muffins, cherry pie, cinnamon rolls…you name it…all without processed foods, all whole grain, no sugar, no artificial sweeteners!
I think the hardest part of permanent healthy eating is that once you allow yourself to slip, you have to be strong enough to nip it in the bud. Like so many otheres here have said, allow yourself to cheat so you dont feel deprived but enough consistant cheating can wreck a healthy eating plan…its all about balance!
Also I highly recomend Jillian Michaels Master Your Metabolism book, for me this book was way way way more informative than the eating clean book, she gets into a lot of info on why avoiding processed foods is the key to losing weight, and she doesnt push calorie counting in this book either, well not so much she emntions to eat between 1800-2000 calories…but thats standard advice anyways. I am NOT a fan of counting cals if ya can tell https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_wink.gif Its too much work!
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@ Tovah thank you for sharing that. I can relate to you in so many ways about the whole dance issue being condemed in churches. I don't understain why some people think dance is a sin! When thats not even a BIBLICAL teaching! The church I got to is a Baptist church, love the sermons, the pastor is great, my kids love it there but the worship is very old school in the sense you dont even lift your hands to praise, let along sway your body, somehow that would be too suggestive?? HUH!?? I dont get it, but I find the other churches in my area that have a diffrent style of worship are weak on their sermons, so i stay there knowing that just about everyone there would condem me for my choice of fitness.
I mean slightly over a year ago I was about 40 pounds heavier, this is the ONE exercise that I actually enjoy and to me its even more than fitness. It's finally a way for me to have a hobby and something to be pationate about that is just for me. Before pole I was pretty boring lol, now I have a fun streak! It agravates me that people are so judgemental because it places an unfair burden on us that somehow whether we like it or not, we do in some way shape or form carry.
There is def a stigma on pole dancing from christians and non-christians a like. It's the reason that many of us take our pole down when we have certain people over the house or choose to remain silent on our passion. I highly applaud those who "just dont care" and remain trasparent in their pole dancing to everyone with the, "I see this as a form of fitness and dance if you see it in a nother light, thats on you" I would love to be that open. And you know what, perhaps just having studios like this one that we are talking about, would make me feel more empowered to have that kind of view on it. They say there is power in numbers and if I had a class to go to with all woman who had my same beliefs and convictions and remained just as open minded and passionate about pole as I am, I would feel I had an alliance behind me and would be more "in your face" with my poling lol
I also forgot to mention that to some women (although not myself) they would immediatly write off pole dancing just because of the music, so a class like this could get them in the door and see that you dont have to dance in a sexual manner, it really could be about the tricks and purely fitness! Some studios tecah all about the "inner she" and things like that which could be off putting to a Chrsitian. Like I said, it doesnt bother me but I do believe it would help more and more Christian women break out of their ridgid opionins of Pole dancing! And the more people we can get involved in pole the sooner it becomes less taboo!
and @ Charley thanks for your comments, I am slowly seeing the merge come together in my dancing. And after all this talk about this, it makes me wanna just try out dancing to a worship song, maybe ease into it with a song by Creed or something lol. It will prob be a freeing moment for me when I can do something like that, I'll have to record it and post it here when I get finally dance to a Christian song 🙂
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Hi guys, I just wanted to say sorry for the link I posted, I was searching for the story I found a few years ago, this wasn't it but i thought it was from the same church, not realising it was just a poke fun story 🙁 It was late lastnight when i posted it and Im sorry for the confusion. The article I saw a while back was similiar, in that along with flags and banners and tambourines they also had poles in the church for performances during worship. I couldnt and still cant find that article anywhere! Anyways yeah, the comments to that other link, and what that article was stating is NOT what I meant to post. Like i siaid, i am a Christian and I pole dance and find nothing wrong with it, its opinions like theirs that are nothing short of cruel and judgemental and sadly many of them will never know how in the wrong they are for what they say!
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Ok this isnt the exact article but this was the Church I was talking about http://www.alittleleaven.com/2007/08/pole-dancing-mi.html Mind you this was in 2008
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Here's my thought on this. First let me tell you that I am a Christian woman, it's not just a lable for me, I walk the Christian life and honestly feel that my poling doesn't make me in any way shape or form wordly or secular, but to be honest does anyone from my church (which also happens to be my kids private school) know that I pole, NO WAY! Why? Bedcause yep, I would be judged there. Do all Christians judge pole dancing, no! But just like with anyone else who doesnt really respect the art, technique and so on about pole, its very misunderstood. I actually read once that Ballet was once thought to be very permiscous and daring and was thought to be trashy, it wasnt appreciated at first either and now look how well respected ballet has become! Anyways back to what I was saying, I don't hide who i am for anyone…if you know me and we hang out you also know I have a pole in my bedroom! lmao I am not ashmaed of it, my mom is one of my biggest supporters and I have a lot of Christian friends who pole dance too. I have often pondred dancing to my collection of Christian music, which Jungle Cat was the inspiration behind thinking of that. I even have songs that are from Christian singers but not about God, like Flyleaf has a cover song to NIN's Something I Can Never Have, So I have danced to the Flyleaf version and they are a Christian group, now I havent yet gotten comfortable dancing to worship only because a lot of my dance is very sexual, as well as emotional but I dont know how to leave the sexulaity out……..
WITH ALL THAT SAID i would actually like to attend a class like this to help me incorportae a diffrent style of dance. i am already pretty expressive in my dancing but wouldn't know how to do it in a way to give God praises. So I say its a good thing, I like the vid that Veena put up b/c it def explains it better! Its a class give every other Sunday in a Pole dance Studio that happens to be owned by a Christian woman, thats all. I think its a great idea and would hope that the idea spreads.
I read an articel a while ago, im gonna dig it up…its about a church that has poles in it so people can dance during worship, for me, that was over the top! It seemed to be more of a shock value thing, and for me that wuld be too weird. I believe that God gave us these bodies, and even in sexual form, it can be artsy and beatiful but swinging a pole in front of people who see the art behind it is totally diff then going up to the alter and swinging a pole in front of people that (like any human) that might be aroused by it, you feel what i am trying to say?? Im gonna look for that article n post the link for u guys if anyone wants to read it lol
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I literally jumped into pole fitness all by myself, never have even had a foot in the door at a studio. Well I did take the novelty one hour long "Stripper 101" while vacationing in Vegas, if that counts! After that I was sold on pole dancing. My friend had a pole in her garage and we played on that a few times and then I did all my homework on a pole and bought my xpole. I LOVE LOVE LOVE it and have learned everything I know from practice at home. I have watched youtube, had a month of Veena (and am saving up to do the 1-year, she's fantastic!) I own 3 Dvd's (the 1st and 2nd Live Once Dvd's, plus a Dvd from Sedussa Studios) I have to admit, as much as I enjoy the DVD's (Live Once is my fav so far) most of my learning has been online since my DVD player is downstairs and I keep my pole upstairs.
Now, I do want to say that I wish I could take a pole class, but the closest studios to me are in Philadelphia and another city over an hour away from where I live. i have three kids and no sitter, so even if I had the money to burn in gas plus classes I still wouldnt have the time. I would love to see how a class is formatted, the techniques being taught and so on, but without the ability to go to a class, at home poling is all I know.
I can tell you that I am just about 100% certain that if you take classes now and you get a pole at home, you will find yourself addicted to the pole. I can't even walk in my room to grab a sweatshirt without at least spining on my pole once. And everytime I see am amazing pole dance either here or on youtube, I just get so motivated to hop on my pole. It's great b/c I can do it when ever I feel like it!
I can use it before bed to wind down after a hard day, or in the morning as a great workout to start the day. I can do it when my kids have driven me so nuts that I need a moment away and can escape for even just one or two songs. My personal recomendation is a home pole, Veena lessons, youtube and maybe a class here and there if you have one local to you, if not there are some good DVD's https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_biggrin.gif
A word of caution on the knock off xpoles, I am glad to hear that the pole u have Dustbunny is fully functional and sturdy. I have def heard some horor stories about the fakes being unstable, chipping and so on. Just be careful if your buying another one. I was super tempted to buy one because of the price, but then I read a bunch of comments about them that scared me away. I have no clue how true they were, as I have never used anything other than my own xpole, and shoot if it were just as good, I wud prob go for the cheaper model too. Just make sure its safe https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_wink.gif
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I have certainly struggled with so many areas of my confidence for so long and it was actually pole dancing that FINALLY helped break me out of that cycle. But even now I still have a hard time accepting compliments. I used to be the kind of girl who would point out my own flaws first, just so someone couldn't ctach me off gaurd and hurt my feelings. So now when someone gives me a compliment I sometimes respond with :really because I thougth (lists 5 diffrent negative things) and then I change the subject.
Heres an example: My mom was watching a pole vid of me (she is super supportive) and was like Wow, thats so beautiful, your amazing! And I responded with really? I hate the way my stomach looked when I was inverting and you can totally tell my roots are growing in bad when I hang upside down (followed by a nervous laugh) and then a switch of conversation.
Now that was a while ago, I have thankfully overcome that in the past year, as I have gotten more and more confident. Sometimes saying things outloud helps and although it can make you appear cocky, if your saying it to the right person it will only help you believe in what your saying. If you find the things that you like the most about yourself and stop hyperfocusing on the few minor imperfections, you'll view yourself as a beautiful, strong, talented and creative woman. Truth is, if you don't believe it, your cheating yourself out of really getting to know the real you!
I can tell you that I can feel frumpy and tired, bloated, have a big red zit on my chin and no make up on but put on some good music and let me get on the pole and in front of my mirrors and I shock myself, I even end up posing for my camera and take picts of myself for no other reason then I feel damn sexy and can't believe its me looking that good. It really is like "take a picture it will last longer" lmao… b/c at that moment I am in my zone and i'm positioning my body in just the right way, in just the right lighting and feel so good about myself. I can't explain it except to say that while dancing I feel like the prima ballerina, the center of attention (even tho no one is around) I feel beautiful and that feeling has finally yet slowly leaked into even when I am not on the pole. But the key is stop thinking anything negative! We all have those certain body issues, but the truth is we some how end up distorting our image in our mind of what we really look like.
One other quick thing, I found something out about myself about a year ago (after I lost about 40 pounds) I used to try to look good when I would go to the store or whatever just in hopes of someone complimenting me, because it would somehow superficially help me believe I looked good. Than something snapped and I realised I dont care if some guy hoots and hollas at me, I dont NEED that kind of attention and nor do I want that, I know I am a good woman, a great mother, look darn good, especially for having three kids (okay Im still working on this one lmao) and any man who thinks he can turn me on by whislting while saying "dayyyum" is not only degrading but not anything that should serve as a measuring mark of my hottness.
Us girls need to unite on the fact that we are not better than eachother (thats just conceided and cocky) but instead lift eachother up and stop the jealously and idol envy of the "pretty girls" because we ALL are the pretty girls. We are each so diffrent in so many ways that there doesnt need to be anyone trying to be like someone else, we need to love our unique flaws, admire our stregth, amaze ourselves at our own abilities and talents and love who we are, caring enough about ourself to stop verbally abusing ourselves!
I noticed when I make time for myself by making sure my eyebrowns are tweezed, nail polish on point, toes looking cute, a lil make up, some body spray, my fav jeans and a cute shirt I literally FEEL 100x's better about myself, as if to say ok whew, I can look good if i wanted to lmao. Its so important to make time for ourselves ladies!!
Okay sorry, I know I didn't exactly answer your questions but i certainly had a lil speech to share, hope you take it to heart sweetie and everyone else who, like me, has struggled or still struggles with these issues, know that confiendense and humilty can go hand in hand and only make you carry yourself with more poise and dignity, as long as you know your worth and never forget it https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_mrgreen.gif So love your sexy self as in Veena's video, which by the way, i LOVE https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_heart1.gif
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