onceuponapole
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I've been trying to sell my lil mynx for two years with no luck. I stopped posting ads for it and it's just collecting dust in my closet. Hope you have better luck. 🙂
Also, highjacking post to see if anyone in SF/Bay Area is looking for a lil mynx (all original parts, lightly used, cleaned often).
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My significant other was completely supportive of me going to my classes when I first started and he asked how it was each time I came home. It wasn't until ~2 months after I started that I was able to show him what I learned. He saw that it was a positive influence in my life and it generally made me a happier person.
We didn't have a pole at home at the time and I didn't find the perfect outdoor pole until we were on vacation. When I had the chance, I showed him the fireman and a few other spins. His jaw dropped since that exceeded his expectations of what I was learning in class. Three years later and I still remember his words: "I thought you were just learning to bump and grind on a pole". -_-
I thought that was funny since he had no idea what I was learning but still supported me regardless.
Maybe he just doesn't understand the purpose of having it or what you're learning in your classes. Hopefully he'll come around once he sees how passionate you are about this!
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Without a doubt it's how you feel about yourself. If you have to keep up a certain look for someone then it puts too much pressure to always have to look good for them.
If you feel good about the way you look, then it really comes through when it comes to confidence.
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You do not deserve to be his emotional punching bag. You, and other commenters, are right that he needs to help himself. The problem with being depressed is you don't think anything's wrong/worth fixing. Some days it's hard to even find the motivation to even get out of bed so even if he recognizes that he feels down some times, he probably doesn't have the motivation to do anything about it. Afterall, if it's not broke, why fix it?
My experience with depression (moderate/severe depression with severe anxiety) is different than other commenters in this thread though. I didn't hit a "rock bottom" before I realized I needed help. It was just seeing my life falling apart that gave me the kick in the ass I needed. Seeing the affects that depression had on my emotional punching bag of a significant other also helped motivate me enough to seek help — I felt like I was losing him to my anger/depression and I didn't want that to happen.
Encourage him to a healthier lifestyle. It will not fix his depression but it could improve his mood. At least 30 minutes of exercise a day, even a walk around the neighborhood counts, could give him an extra boost of motivation for day to day tasks. Eating better also helps. Sugar, caffeine, alcohol, and red meats can all impact mood in a negative way. You cannot control what he eats but you can make better choices when you're cooking for each other. And if you could get him into it, deep breathing helps with anxiety and can also reduce anger.
Again, these activities will not fix the depression but it could help him.
As for yourself, don't let his depression bring you down with him. Misery loves company but you should not suffer because of him. If you're see that you're starting to get depressed, find someone to talk to. Having a strong support network is important.
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I recently saw a post on another forum saying that you need to have really deep pockets to support opening a new studio. I believe it took her tens of thousands of dollars to do it from scratch. If you have the time and the know-how, doing the construction yourself (or with help of people you know) would be best for the wallet.
If you're lucky enough to find pole studio looking for a new owner, that's your golden opportunity. The setup is already there and you might even inherit the student base. Just make sure you get an inspection and go through everything with a fine tooth comb before committing — poles, floor, electrical, etc.
My dream studio would have two storey poles, mirrors, heated floors, and a great sound system. My current studio has 12 poles and the anytime we have a new student, I love watching their jaw drop. It's like walking into a pole forest.
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If it's in liquid form, treat it like any other liquid under the 3-1-1 rule — 3 oz or less in a 1 quart bag per 1 passenger.
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Take the kitty in for a vet visit. Make sure it has all its vaccinations and tests (fleas, fiv, worms, etc), is spayed/neutered, and if you're planning on keeping it yours get it chipped. Before you do anything drastic, make sure it's a stray and doesn't have a family somewhere near by.
Decide if this is going to be an indoor or outdoor cat. There are pros and cons to both. Since this cat started out in the streets though, it may be a good idea to keep it outdoors if it was doing well out there. If it wasn't then it may be a good idea to keep it indoors. Whatever your choice, make sure you give it the right tools to be happy and healthy.
If it's still a kitten, it might be a good idea to incorporate wet food with dry food. They may not be getting enough water as a kitten so the wet food ensures hydration. Wean off wet food around six months. Go for a quality food source. Purina, friskies, fancy feast, and Iams tend to have more filler, at least they did when I got my cat five years ago.
Decide how you're going to potty train, if you want a litter box or train it to use the toilet. Yes, it's possible to train it to use the toilet but it could be a long process and mistakes will be made (so don't get mad at it!). I attempted to toilet train my cat and it was successful for awhile except it went back to the litter box whenever we had someone cat-sit for us and that caused her to regressed. She's now a box kitty again. If you decide to toilet train, I recommend the litter kwitter system over a disposable system. If you decide to box train, get one of the mats for the outside of the box that they can clean their claws on and catches the litter. Also look into the type of litter you're getting. Some clumping ones produce dust that kicks up during cleaning that's not so good for you.
If this cat is still a kitty, you will want to buy it toys! Cats can become restless by not getting enough attention/play time.
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Really good DVD. A little long so set aside time or break it up to different focus areas each time. I love how informative and knowledgeable she is.
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We do a moving meditation at my studio at the end of warm-up for each class. It's a great way to just connect with the pole, floor, and music. Too bad I don't have enough pole space to record.
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I have two at this point — elbow stand and butterfly. It took me a good 10-15 tries before I figured out the physics of both. I'm now able to execute these moves but they still a lot of work.
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I had to get my belly button pierced twice (infected after many years of having it and created scar tissue). Pierced by different people and both times I was told to use a sea salt soak (1/4 tsp of sea salt in 8-12 oz of hot water) then rinse. Wash twice daily with mild non-scented castile soap — nothing with triclosan — making sure to get all angles of the piercing.
I can't remember the exact timing of my second piercing but it must've been around the same time I started pole dancing. Dance with the area covered and avoid any move where you may have contact between pole and belly. Clean the piercing after working out.
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I'm an administrative assistant who is lucky enough to have a pole studio 10 minutes from my office. A handful of people from work know I pole dance, all women. But for the most part, it is my workout class. I stopped saying dance class since it's usually followed by "what type of dance." Outside of work, I'm pretty open about it.
I've met so many interesting people through pole dancing who work a spectrum of jobs, from medical and law professionals to teachers to directors/managers in the private sector to people working in the public sector to people who own their own business. I love how pole dancing brings all these walks of life together.
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I just joined this community not too long ago and finally found time to be an active member. I was so excited to discover the month challenges. Hopefully I can upload a video for this month, if not maybe I'll catch the next one. Any guidelines that need to be followed?