[pole-twista]

ok again just getting in and need to sleep asap before going back, but it has really touched me to see the way everyone on this forum is so kind, caring, and supportive **HUGS** there are still so many things i could say and even more (if thats possible https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_wink.gif ) after reading responses I will spare you all a 23paragraph response, but here are a few things i wanted to touch on:

I understand body issue believe me 3x i have been less than 5lbs away from goal (after alot of hard work and discipline) and instead of just losing the last three or whatever NO NO NO I alway regain 10-15lbs it is incredibly frustrating and i know there is some psychological stuff holding me back from goal I am noticing cellulite where not to long ago there was none or barely noticiable, I don’t even want to get stated on my crazy curls, when i lost the intital weight also lost some boobage 2 cup sizes to be exact (since we’re being so blessedly open with each other) and I could just go down the list of things that make me not perfect, but perfectly human and beautiful in my own one of a kind way there is only 1 of you in the whole universe there has never been and never will be another you that in its self is a reason to celebrate your self so you know what i am strong, healthy, unique, posses my own style of dance and sensuality, am kind, compassionate, and loving i take time to help people whenever I can and i sing and write poetry well see that felt good it has become so acceptable to put ourselves ( and others ) down how bout raising up?? what do you love about yourself? what makes you feel good? when i am encouraging andappreciating others i feel good i feel connected to things bigger than myself when i am being bitchy or taken for granted someones kindness i feel lousy everyones entitled to their personal preferences/opinions, but with freedom comes responsibility if your critisim is constructive, than so be it but if you cant put your negative opinion of someone in a tactful way, it’s time you learn to put a filter between your brain and your mouth bc just like everyone has opinions, everyone has feelings too please always remember to asses where comments are coming from some stranger hiding behind a computor screen? what do I (or you) care?? who is this person? someone you respect? sopmeone who’s opinion you value? if no than let those rude/pointless comments roll right off your sexy curves I once heard someone say "your opinion of me is none of my buisness" it stuck with me https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_thumright.gif

ok maybe this is going to be long https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_pirat.gif ) ok my friend got her pole right before i got mine she cannot do a basic invert or more than 5-6 spins she had the benefit of having the pole sooner, in her house (mine in attic where is always crazy hot or cold so limits me a little) and all kind of people wanting to go on the pole with her i was the one who got the later start, had issues with pole being in attic so cant always pole when i wanted (now have 1 in house too), and has nobody coming over to play on the pole not to mention when i took my class ( i took 4 out of state before had pole) i had so little upper body strength i could barely get both feet of the ground i was the only 1 (in a class with a 55+ yo, a lady with a shoulder problem, and a considerably overwieght woman) who could not invert by the end of the classes i asked the teacher to help me but she "forgot" whoops ya… well now i can do all basic/inter spins and a number of inverts/tricks the point is you just never know how someones going to progress seems my friend would be more advanced than me with sooner start ect, and i would be the 1 trailing as had such a hard time to start (my hands would actually bleed and hurt to walk as legs were no lie bruises ankle to hip ) there are some things that frustrate me but overall i focus on my abilites and building on my current level your lourney is your own so enjoy it https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_sunny.gif

the psychology thing (you said you didnt want to post after writting ) I thought was an amazing piece of advice to keep in mind ( i took a pyschology class years ago and have always been intrested in the subject) it’s so true!!
Joel- I just want to say your an inspiration i think knowing how cruel people can be (esp online) it takes alot of guts to post and i was actually checking out your vid on how to use the bracket hold to get into butterfly i dont htink i had ever seen that done before tried it but no dice (YET) https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_batman.gif i also haven’t made as any vids as i would like due to not having something that i feel sexy in i wear shorts/tank for practice, but when doing a song your clothes (atleast for me) can alter the whole mood im always seeing vids and thinkin damn i wish i could look good in that but am more detemined than ever to find a few outfits i feel good in
I also agree about getting more support/encouragment here on this forum than from people i am friends with of the net its a blessing to have so many good people to interact with https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_flower.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_biggrin.gif

ok i will end yet another painfully long speech with 2 of my favorite quotes

WELL BEHAVED WOMEN RARELY MAKE HISTORY

***** THE HUMAN SPIRIT IS STRONGER THAN ANYTHING THAT CAN HAPPEN TO IT*****
(my abslt. fave this is coming from a woman who was basically deaf/blind/mute Helen Keller)

https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_flower.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_sunny.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_flower.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_queen.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_flower.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_DJ.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_flower.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_geek.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_flower.gif
https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_study.gif and thats the conclusion to my novel https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_albino.gif

[pole-twista]

Thanks for the tips btw will give it a try this weekend https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_flower.gif

[pole-twista]

ya i have the lessons some are not there jade split/jacknife ect the handspring is and is broken down well, but just can’t seem to get the concept https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_idea.gif twisted grip too no matter how many times i see the vids of it I just cant seem to figure out how to grip the pole ect so cant even begin to practice https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_sad.gif i can do what i thought would be a half cartwheel mount into butterfly but i think I keep hearing it called half handspring into butterfly either way handspring or cartwheel are both big on my list https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_batman.gif ya I was refering to the aysha (straight edge split) i also use elbow grip as feels more secure for me i can unwrap ankles once in catipillar with elbow, but it looks more like i’m about to attempt superman than aysha bc am still gripping tight with inner thighs and legs are more straight behind me rather than away from pole and straddled this one i think is just a matter of building strength, confidence, and balance was just wandering if anyone had any tips
certain strength/balancing exersise or a diffrent way of getting into it

like the handspring there was a girl trying it on youtube and someone told her she was gripping way too high and thats why she wasnt getting it she lowered grip and got it next vid just simple tips like that can make the diffrence between months of frustration and landing a move i am more than happy to help anyone with any moves i know how to do or have gotten tips on spread the love https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_sunny.gif

[pole-twista]

ya i def dont want a crazy strict routine, but i would like to know that at key moments in the song i am not just looking to the clouds for answers as to what to do next cant wait to give all this recent tips /advice a try good luck with lapdance! let us know how it goes https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_batman.gif

[pole-twista]

well thats the thing too is like if you have a problem or Q you get no response i asked several times about her dvd set and got no answer glad i just bought the 1 https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_thumbdown.gif

[pole-twista]

so i thought it was time for another check in hows everyone doing with goals?

I have got 2 and half i learned reverse climb and extended butterfly lost 7 of 10lbs strectching hasnt been too good lately have been on the pole more now that have 1 in house (dont have to run heater hr. previous to using pole) still no local pole buddy

am actually going to post new topic under health and fitness about body issues/goals just a topic place where people who need motivation or a place to vent or even ask for advivce can go https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_cheers.gif

[pole-twista]

thanks for taking the time to rate the books so thoroughly I am looking into starting classes around here so am trying to really branch out by trying new dance styles, music, and most of all looking for anything that will help gain flexibility can’t wait to check these out

[pole-twista]

ok your going to get that sae sour-puss attitude in the video ( i have the advanced and you would be wating your $ if youare intermediate) the 2 girls in the video do not smile not once they look like its the last thing they want to be doing the camera angles look like .. well i wont say but sometimes the close ups of the crotch area that thats all you can see no idea what the rest of the bodys doing moves are not broken down well there really is no floor work other than basics in warm up ( crawling opening legs ) very similar to her you tube vids only thing is good for is combos if you already know the moves but honestly you could get the same thing on you tube

A good series is jamillas art of pole she is excellent https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_cheers.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_cheers.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_cheers.gif

[pole-twista]

The Complete Idiots Guide to Pole & Exotic Dance was actually what got me into pole in the first place its very good for a real beginner (although it does have 2 inverts) but also good for anone wanting to get down with some floor & chair work very good dvd I would highly recommend ( not for those looking for advanced moves or combos)

[pole-twista]

ok i wasnt even going to respond to this right now bc am insanly tired (just got in from 3rd shift and have to go back in few hrs) but this hit a nerve so strong I had to take the time so here it is https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_salut.gif

1) YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL, INSPIRING, & AMAZING AS IS
2) You are obviously very brave to come on here and admit you have issues with your body/progress and not write "lol" after it your keeping it real and I think it was great that someone had the guts to say it like it is
ya know, i’m frustrated, hurt, angry ect thats totally ok and I think it gave the rest of us an oppurtunity to talk about it w/o sugar coating it
3) It blows my mind there are people out there with such a lack of compassion, integrity, tact ect who are also obviously so out of touch with reality & people that the only pleasure they can seem to find for themselves is putting down people with enough guts to make a video and put themselves out there my Q is if you find someone so untalented/fat ect why are you watching??? do you truly have nothing better to do with your time? I always say when someone puts another down for no good reason it says more about the person talking than the 1 being talked about https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_profileleft.gif
4) I cant begin to list the issues I have with my body/progress i’m going to be 30 in september and it can be a little frustrating sometimes when i’m feeling less than amazing to see girls pracically half my age doing things i feel i will never be able to do or see these really thin ladies with flat flat tummies ect There are times i look at my pole vids and think how far I have come, but I have to say there are times when i’m looking at my pole & thinking why do i bother? been trying superman/handspring ect for months and have made basically no progress. it does suck sometimes to see a video labeled my first attempt at …. and its some move i have been practicing for months and the person gets it first shot i’m also with you on looking for motivation and ending up more frustrated than when you started.. but you know what? see cooment #1
5) If you were 5’9 120lbs w/long flowing blonde hair, big blue eyes and big breasts, there would no doubt be a number of people who would say she’d be so much prettier if she were 5’5 w/short choppy dark hair, a smaller bust and green eyes… basically no matter what you look like, your not going to be everyones type
and bottom line who cares what a mean spirited person has to say i have learned over time to let comments by people i don’t know, much less care about, affect me if i don’t personaly value your opinion than your words don’t hold weight w/me
6) Put that pole back up, but keep the pressure off dont make a vid for awhile get back to poling being about you and your own personal enjoyment not to please anyone else experiment with some clothes, lighting, music, diffrent styles of dance ( i bought a bellydancing and hip hop dvd to try) just keep playing around with things til you find what feels good and pleases you https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_DJ.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_safesex.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_queen.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/alien.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_rendeer.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_geek.gif regardless of what anyone thinks you want to skip around your pole or tapdance the whole song? go for it! anyone who doesnt like it is free to watch the 10 million other videos no nasty comment required https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_ncool.gif
7) YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_flower.gif YOU ARE AN INSPIRATION https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_batman.gif YOU ARE SEXY https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_queen.gif ( i say so there is no 1 definition of sexy so we’re all entitled to our own version) YOU ARE A GREAT PART OF THIS FORUM https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_cheers.gif please don’t fall into the trap us women are so eager to jump into comparing yourself to others is really a losing battle https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_thumbdown.gif no matter how beautiful, skinny, talented, rich, ect you are
1 there is always going to be someone you see as "better" https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_smurfin.gif 2 we all need to be gratful for the body, life and abilites we have at this very second https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_sunny.gif at any second you could have it al taken away

I could write so much more ( as i said this really touched home for me ) but i dont want to turn this into a 4pg. response please feel free to email me anytime if you would like to talk more https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_biggrin.gif i know i don’t know you personally, but I do care ( otherwise my tired butt would be in bed https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_wink.gif ) and after reading this I decided I am going to either spend the $25 to transfer tape to dvd so can post, or laptop shop a little sooner than planned so can post & where before i was only going to post the "good " parts of my videos https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_batman.gif bc I too was comparing and thinking how am I going to keep up? https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_scratch.gif but i think it takes a little more guts to post you practice & less than stellar stuff here & there it shows you progressing over time, it’s endearing to watch peoples expressions & such as they are trying learn something ( some of my fave vids from Veena are the ones with her relearning things after baby it was so cute & relatable), & it helps to keep others inspired & motivated as they see the work that goes into learning to master a move
WHEW’ https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_study.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_bigsmurf.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_bigsmurf.gif

PS Veena, although you seem like you take things in stride, I just want to say you have an amazing, fit body that after 4 kids is almost enough to make me not like you if you weren’t so nice (i’m j/k https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_wink.gif ) but really no matter what you look like you are someones version of perfect https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/bom.gif and the complete opposite for another https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_ncool.gif thats the beauty of sexy its comes in such an array of types https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_cool.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_mrgreen.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/alien.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_joker.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_farao.gif
and anyone who says your a bad mother is not thinking clearly with the money you earn from pole dancing you provide your children with a beautiful house as well as passing on the idea that physical fitness is imporatnt & can be fun not to mention you help to empwer women & that will go a long way in teaching your children how to respect women oh 1 more thing how about the fact you’ve come up with a way to get paid to do what you love, & be home with your children ok I’m really done now https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/bom.gif

Hace A Great Day & Happy Poling!!! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_sunny.gif

[pole-twista]

thats a good idea i love combos and have a list of mostly invert combos but its a notebook which doesnt help when at the pole I will try to post on wall til get used to it good idea https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_sunny.gif I would really like to have an actual routine to practice and "perfect" I see these routines on youtube or whatever and it’s obvious this was a routine that was planned and practiced mostly i see this with studio/class videos, but there are no classes round here I can’t wait to try this and see if things go any smoother https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_thumright.gif

[pole-twista]

Nice to meet you Welcome https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_sunny.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_flower.gif

[pole-twista]

wow it’s amazing to have the oppurtunity to talk with polers all over the world nice to meet you and hope you enjoy the site Veena and everyone are very helpful and supportive it’s a great enviroment https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_sunny.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_flower.gif

[pole-twista]

lol ya thats me too I look back at the tape and it’s like thats it?… oh. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_confused.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_cool.gif I actually have 2-3 songs I think I did pretty good on, but first I need to get laptop (as I have learned the hard, time-consuming, expensive way) my comp. and camera aren’t going to work togethet bc comp is too old or so I am told should be gtting taxes next month so will be able to get it then only other thing is when did the videos wasnt planning on posting and they are a little "sexy" nothing crazy, but ya know… https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_albino.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_cat.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_confused.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_cool.gif although now that we can set out videos to private for the forum maybe can post more well can’t wait to see next months challenge and the new things veenas got planned for the sight https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_bounce.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_bounce.gif

[pole-twista]

Oh what great ideas!! I will def be checking out those websites ya my room is in the attic and although it’s like a regular room, the sides of the room (length wise) has slanted walls so would be easier to lean mirror against wall rather than have mirrors on the wall i also really need a way to store clothes shoes I am actually looking for shoes even though the deals online are amazing, since I can’t try it on I’d rather buy in person I am having a hard time finding stores around here that sell "exotic wear" any idea how to locate thoses kinds of stores in your own local area? I tried local.com but nothing might just be there really none around here they have a couple nice stores in RI, but that’s 30-35mins drive well any help would be appreciated and thanks again for the great ideas! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_biggrin.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_sunny.gif