polebravely
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but I will also say, I like to mix it up every so, I always come back to pole as my main thing, but every so often I like to try something different for conditioning and it can be fun. Just be sure to use good form with whatever you are doing!
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I did Kayla Istines workouts for 12 weeks which is kind of similar but not as weight lifting focused, it was more plyometric exercises, and I did slim down and I did feel stronger, but I was so worn out, I went backwards with pole? I am just focusing on pole and Veena’s studio lessons for the time being. I also felt like those exercises took a toll on my knee. All that jumping around. I’m conflicted myself, but I just think the only way to get better with pole is too pole. Perhaps some weight lifting can help, but P90x is so intense and pole is already tough enough….imo
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I just tell it like it is
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I just watched your videos….you’re hot and you dance damn sexy. I have body issues and yours is the kind of body I envy. We are hardest on ourselves. Your man should make you feel like he thinks you’re hot just the way you are. Despite my body issues, I know my man thinks I’m sexy and loves me and just standing by the pole turns him on. Have fun with it, roll with it, and if you’re not ready wait to do this. It should be fun! But anyway, you’re sexy as hell.
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I am on IG! @sha_quiet
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oh my goodness! That is horrible! I agree with these women, keep your chin up and keep going with pole. Come to SV. It’s very supportive here. Wow that is terrible. So many hugs your way!
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Exactly! He doesn’t have to be standing there jumping up and down with glee with every new move you learn, but he should keep the negativity to himself and be supportive. And one doesn’t have to be into it to be supportive. But he could say, great job, that takes strength, keep at it, etc.
While I love pole, and I do it for me, my ex was so negative and mean (and emotionally abusive) I believed that I wasn’t good enough to even try pole…. I guess that’s why I’m so worried when I hear someone is negative. He could have amazing qualities and be awesome, But he needs to work on being supportive and not negative. I feel like my ex didn’t like the brief effects it had on my self esteem and so he quashed it. Now, whether my new man works out or not, I will always only make time for someone who is supportive and enjoys my happiness.
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The boyfriend I was dating when I first started poling was so horrible and negative about it, I didn’t progress at all and almost quit and did for a couple of years. He would tell me my bruises were unattractive or laugh when I was attempting a knee tuck…and just was dismissive about it. I hated it and it made me feel horrible and if I could go back in time I would dump him right there.
While one does not have to be “into” it, I do feel they have to be supportive. Someone who is not supportive is not a someone you want in your life, what other dreams will they stomp out before they even begin?
My current boyfriends is wonderfully supportive. I don’t make him watch pole vidoes, but he doesn’t mind when I’m scrolling through instagram and watch a video on repeat. Sometimes he will lean over and just say, holy crap! lol. He doesn’t care I spend time at the studio, or that I spent money on pole clothes, mats, studio time, etc., or if I hop on the pole at home and practice inverting.
I try to support him too. He loves to play magic and is very good. He also loves comics and other table top games. I would never make fun of him or discourage him from hanging out with friends or wanting to compete in a big magic trounament (they exist and are quite huge!!) I have learned magic for him and in return he is getting involved with yoga and learning postures from me. I don’t think magic is my thing or that yoga is his really his thing, but now we can kind of talk about the things we both have interests in without being completely clueless. It’s nice to know what he is into to and he has told me, it’s nice to know what I do when he’s not around. He has even offerred to come to a pole class with me, but he’s afraid he might not be able to do anything (hence the yoga practice haha).
He didn’t me going to MPDA with some girlfriends either.
I just think it’s a big red flag when the SO isn’t supportive or down right negative. I would really have to ask myself if I want someone in my life who doesn’t want me to exercise. At the root of it, pole keeps me in shape and happy and healthy…who doesn’t want their partner to be those things? If he’s not into it cool, but dammit, he should be supportive.
For the record, I think he should find it attractive too. I love it when I catch my guy sneaking glances at me while I’m practicing a new move. I don’t feel attractive, I feel sweaty, smelly, and tired, and tacky, but he just thinks that it and I are beautiful. Real men are not afraid.
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Great discussion guys. I definitely feel like most of it is fear based or a deep seeded longing to also join in the fun! I’m going to try and take in stride and just keep being positive about it. I like to share my videos to help promote the studio. I’m not that advanced, but every time I learn something new I just feel so happy and that much more confident. It’s like the best. I do remember a time when I did not feel that way though. Pole has helped me so much. Maybe that’s the ultimate fear for these women and men, actually liking themselves and at the same time appreciating someone else. They aren’t exclusive.
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*facepalm* @firebird @skramamme ugh, patriarchy. I feel it especially in this lawyer profession which I am becoming more unhappy with daily. It is a boy’s club in a lot of respects. I have so many examples I have encountered in my job. There are some amazing people, there are, but overall, I just get tired of it.
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I set up my phone and press record and take video. Then, I watch the video, pause it when I am holding the position, and take a picture of the screen or screenshot. That is how I take photos lol.
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@firebird I expected fallout, just not like this. Apparently, it might have kept me from getting a job I had applied for, as it was brought up when the attornies were reviewing candidates to work in the city prosecutor’s office (I am a judicial clerk at the moment and am looking for a permanent job as opposed to temporary judicial clerkships). At that time, I had not told anyone, posted videos, and everything was friends only. I have friends from law school who work where I work and this person would only have known if the people who I thought knew me best were the the ones talking it up like something bad or shameful. Anyway, luckily, I have a lot of allies. I have been much more open about it at work this last year because I have asked people to come with me. Those who do appreciate it much more. I’m just tired of the side eye.
@Runemist34 I think that is what irritates me too…is that I think it is so much bull crap that I was being vilified for being a *potentially* sexual being? While I am not doing this to be a stripper and I just think it is beautiful, I really never understood the disgust associated with stripping anyway. The negative association is basically just a way to pass judgement on a woman who choose not to life their life according to the gender norm of society AND the low income population.
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I do not know what you consider tall. I’m 5’9″ and have begun wearing heels. I have a size ten foot and very narrow feet. I have found that a size 8 or 9 in the chrome pleasers work best for my feet. They are 7 inch heels.
Am I super comfortable in them yet? Um…no, lol. But I am more comfortable in them than the first day I put them on? Yes, very much so yes. It’s like most things with pole, at first it’s like…uh really, you want me to what? and then it becomes, I got this, haha. Veena has foot conditioning exercises that help get the foot ready for heels and strengthen them and for being on the ball of the foot if shoeless. It’s bit scary looking down, but you will never get better at anything unless you try and practice. 😀
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Great advice from everyone!!!
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All great tips. I will need to sit down and figure this out. I think it’s mainly just the feeling of being upside down. I am much more comfortable when I have a spotter. I will really sit down, maybe journal about this, try to figure out why the fear is there.