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Also I discovered the target solid color shorts are easy to make into side "pucker" shorts, just put some embroidery thread doubled up through a needle, sew a stitch down the sides, pull it tight and tie it off. 

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Checking in target panties for pole bottoms!! They seem to always have a full stock of standard solid color "boy short" or "girl boxer brief" cuts in solid colors and seasonal patterns. And they're usually 5 for $20. Maybe they're not $40 name brand fancy shorts but for practice with a gstring underneath like I would with any short they do me just fine.

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Ouch that sounds painful!! Maybe if your insurance would cover it, a meeting with a physical therapist or sports medicine PT would give you some good insights about how any lack of muscle tone you have now might be affecting your pole goals versus what your recovery would look like and what your post-op goals could be? Good luck and speedy recovery if you do go forward with it 🙂

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First….
When something is affected, it’s the verb.

When something is an effect, it’s the noun.

Second, in a tummy tuck I don’t think they’re actually cutting your abs, they’re removing loose skin and reattaching it around your navel and across the tummy. She doesn’t follow this site much anymore I don’t think but TrophyWife who used to post a lot had a tummy tuck and I believe her recovery was not more than a couple months/12 weeks for tissues to heal and stitches to dissolve. I do know you should show pics to your doc because they generally don’t realize what you mean when you say you pole dance or even when you explain it. Best to bring a picture of something that would directly affect it like a jade, yogini, chopsticks etc that would pull or press directly on your abdomen and ask how long. Just remember don’t push it because you don’t want to pull on the incision, plastic surgeons sew their incisions a special certain way so they are not noticeable when they heal and you don’t want to tug on it and ruin that! But I do know that you CAN pole again after having one it’s just a bit of a wait to ensure you get he results you wanted.

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Nope. Don’t know how the strippers do it, cause it pinches skin in places not meant to be pinched.

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Checking in that I also have used the steam from my clothes iron, works great! Conair also makes a handheld garment steamer though that is really cheap, think $25 range and is perfect for the pole or for touching up clothes.

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David Owen explained to me recently that there are kind of two schools of thought on back bending. The “gentler” way is to get the even extension all through the spine like you see in emotioncatcher’s video, the other is more the Russian gymnast approach where they get the 90 degree curve where the lower back is somewhat mobile. I think it’s relatively easy to see why just going for hyper mobility in one spot in the back like that has a much larger capacity for injury than a back stretching routine that tries to gradually and evenly open the whole spine.

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I feel it is really important to say that the gymnast who is featured in the first post here retired extremely young because of crippling back pain due to improper training that left her permanently injured.

Please remember that it's nice to admire these professional athletes, but most of us started poling because we wanted to be healthy and strong, and professional athletes often push their training past the point of HEALTHY to the point of doing PERMANENT DAMAGE solely for the sake of getting the result of WINNING a competition. Not to scare anyone off backbending, but just remember that some of these gymnasts who start as kids, someone took them when they were five and in the span of a few weeks or months of lessons crunched their butt to their head at the cost of injury when that level of back flexibility might take years for a person to develop without injury. Just something to keep in mind!

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I don’t know Sarah personally. I just want to ask everyone to please consider just a few things in this discussion about things you may be reading online before posting. What I’m about to say is not directed at anyone or any post here, this is just something I want to say generally based on the discussion I see starting:

Please try to think and re-think before posting anything that speculates about the personal situation of someone you don’t know. Anything that we post is out there forever, even on a “members only” website like this one. IF she were in some kind of bad situation with a man in her life, I think most people would agree it would not be helpful for her to read posts of people speculating about what is going on with her.

Please vote with your wallet by not supporting anything you personally don’t feel comfortable supporting, but let’s try to keep gossip down and keep any discussion focused in a way that if she were to read it she would have an opportunity for valuable feedback from the community rather than commentary that just hurts to read.

For example, in discussing wanting to see a better-written and presented website for the business plan before donating money. That would be a constructive comment, where making comments that seem to question her personal professionalism or skill because of the website when we know she’s not even doing the web stuff herself, those are some suggestions I have seen making the rounds that are not constructive comments. Let’s try to remember that the Internet can be a forum for small-business owners to gain valuable interaction and feedback time with the market to have the best chances of building their business. BUT the Internet can also become a witch hunt that spreads rumors faster than facts in ways that individual people can’t fight against.

In short, I would just urge everyone to remember that the pole community is about sisterhood and post your criticisms based on that, like you would write to a sister. To challenge perhaps, but always to uplift.

Thanks for reading! I reiterate that this post is not directed at any individual poster(s) or comment(s), but is merely a manifestation of my hopes for the direction this conversation will go.

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Thanks ladies! I’ll try poking a small nail hole to drain the water since even though it’s pretty it was inexpensive so I’ll let you know how it goes!

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For whatever it’s worth, I don’t think I’ll ever get this move. I’ve been working on it for over a year. I’ve taken it to several “pro” instructors who all gave me great tips but I still can’t get up there. I’m starting to believe the flag lift is one of those moves that some people just pop up into it no problem and for other people….not so much lol. So if you really aren’t getting it, forgive yourself…I’m accepting that my body does not want to do this one, or at least I’m trying to accept it.

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I think (assume) it’s a handmade hoop from irrigation tubing that one of the dancers there had made and brought with her, so it’s quite possible the hoop was a bit larger than standard. It does seem a bit big, but forced perspective does funny things. I was wondering about the hoop size as well.

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LOL. I would ask that rotten commenter if she would feel comfortable having sex with her husband or even just chatting with her female friends in front of her dad or brother. Probably not. Doesn’t make it wrong. How ridiculous…it irks me to no end when people try to reduce complex moral issues down to weird adages/standards like that which NO ONE would meet 100% of the time and then go spouting that nonsense to anyone they don’t agree with. Sigh. Lol.

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And since you did the 30 day kickoff, I definitely suggest sticking with Veena’s lessons since she has lots of invert conditioning (including the reverse hand stand i described, I believe) that will get you flying!

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I would honestly say you should condition a little more before trying to add inverts to your regimen, but you are strong enough to do some inverted prep. If you can get into the inverted crucifix from the ground, by putting your hands down in a handstand position and sliding one leg then the other up the pole, you can hold the inverted crucifix then tuck your body up and get your hands in invert position, then do a controlled tuck down from the invert.

When you try to invert next, definitely lower those hands and walk your feet forward a step so you’re not trying to get that leg up so far. I think you’re right on the edge, if you’re already this far after 30 days you’ll be up there soon!