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Just one bit of advice on the pushups Runey because not everyone is as careful with their body and training as you are.
If you have damage to your shoulders from training, it’s a good idea to be cleared by a doctor before adding a ton of push ups to your routine, and make sure your form is 100% correct when you do. I do have shoulder damage and I get a similar workout by holding a full plank and lowering it slowly to the ground several times. For added challenge lower it down, stopping three times on the way down and holding for ten count, once at the top, once at the middle, and once hovering right over the floor. Pushups are more about building muscle endurance than building tons of strength, so keep that goal in mind and don’t feel pressured to be able to “drop and give me 20” lol.
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I suggest keeping a little flip-top mini jewelry box type thing that can fit inside the cash register or the office, some locked area so anyone who forgets to remove jewelry beforehand can keep it in a relatively safe spot.
Of course you probably still want to have a property liability clause on any waiver they sign, that while you’ll offer a place to put jewelry you’re not liable from any loss of property resulting from a student’s failure to remove their jewelry and leave it at home prior to entering the studio.
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This is a new one for me. Hm. Are you doing actual sit ups/crunches bringing torso to knees instead of knees to torso? Maybe the abdominal contractions coupled with that rocking motion of your torso are making you feel quite literally seasick.
Perhaps if you try doing reverse crunches either on the ground or from an invert grip hold, bringing knees to chest and keeping torso still? Maybe nixing the rocking motion of a situp would be an easy fix, worth a shot?
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Do be careful since as you said there had been renovations, you don’t know how they did them. Sometimes they put drywall up over plaster, it’s hard to tell. But FWIW in my last house I had plaster ceilings, moved my pole around a few places and never had an issue.
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Ask chemgoddess about the paint itself, but yes pretty much any place that powder coats customer items will powder coat your pole for you. Some members here have done it and come out with pink or sparkly poles.
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Oh and you can usually check for beams with a hammer and nail if all else fails. If it taps in easily you’re over drywall. If it taps in and then gets stuck you’re over wood.
Also if you have an old school house that is real actual plaster over flak boarding you can pretty much put the pole anywhere, because of how the houses were constructed back then. You will USUALLY know if this is the case because you won’t be able to get a nail in anywhere.
If you don’t feel comfortable making that determination stick to the board method!
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You don’t have to do that. If you really don’t have optimal placement, get a nice thick piece of plywood, about an inch, that is big enough to make a square that covers the gap between beams. Use sturdy bolts to attach the piece of wood to the ceiling directly into the beams. You should be able to put the dome over that area and it will distribute the weight to the beams.
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It’s good that you’re getting used to that shin grip as a beginner. You’ll eventually be able to work on climbing using just the shin grip with both feet pointed like Jenyne. It’s hard to learn if you get really dependent on that flexed foot (like I did when I was learning lol)
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I don’t really drink anymore, but for me the hung over feeling doesn’t really go away until I can eat a normal meal and drink about a half liter of water or milk with it.
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I also suffer from anxiety and panic attacks. Fortunately I’m gaining more control every day and am 100% medication free. But it will always be something that creeps up from time to time. I’ve learned to see this as something that has been a part of my life since childhood but it doesn’t define me or control my actions. Pole and getting physically fit in general has done wonderful things for my overall mental health, but now it also importantly is a source of friendship and support in times of need. And I think that’s why pole didn’t just get me healthy but helps me stay healthy in the long term in a whole-being kind of way.
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I second target. They carry a line of ultra-light weight wicking fabric undies. I get the low rise panties and thongs in black or flesh toned and they work under everything and show no lines.
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Was in the instructor who made the comment about your song choice? If so that's something I personally would not tolerate hearing from an instructor, and as an instructor I would never say something like that. If it was another student who said that to you, I think you should bring to the instructor's attention that the other student(s) is/are making you uncomfortable.
As for feeling self-conscious, I really empathize with you because I've had similar experiences. Self-confidence about my body is a recent feature in my life and if I had a nickel for every time I've gotten one of those "if I were your size…" comments….ugh. Now that I have a more positive self-image, I've learned that when women say that what you're really hearing is a genuine compliment that is colored by and buried underneath their own negative body-image. They have the same hate of some parts of themselves that you do, and wind up insulting you because that hate comes out in the comments. If there are specific things being said that bother you, by all means bring those up in a calm way and handle the issue. It sounds like the class environment isn't really supportive, and that's something you can address with the staff or even try to find a new studio if possible.
But also remember that people will always make comments, and you ultimately have to work on embracing and loving yourself so your positivity comes from inside and shields you from all that. Don't let there be a cloud deep inside of you that can grow and engulf you. Really question what the shame and fear and anxiety does to your life, ask yourself where it comes from, ask yourself what changes it has made in your life and what you do (that you don't want to do) to accomodate it. Shine a light right on that BS and burn it away. Stop looking at a 2"x2" patch on your belly and step back in the mirror, see the whole you and the powerful body that made life and protects life and lives life. That's the body that carries you in this world, and that's amazing. And nothing to be ashamed of. And if people like that are going to STILL make the comments whether you cover up or not, then why try to prevent it? Why not live open and proud and without the fear and set yourself free from the things about other people that you can't change?
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Get the release tools!! They are a MUST and the safest way to get the poles apart. My pole has damage to the holes on one of the main sections from the previous owner pushing too hard on the chopsticks and it actually bumped the hole out to a sharp edge which I have to really watch myself on as I have cut myself on it before. The release tools distribute the force to both sides of the holes so that can’t happen.
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If you want to work on activating those muscles, stop the flow of urine when you’re on the toilet. If you can do that, you know you’ve got the right muscles.
Here’s my kegal routine since it seems a lot of us need to work on them. I do all these once per day:
Contract and release as quickly as you can in five pulses. Relax a few seconds then do it again times five. These were hard for me when I first started, I had to start slow and work up speed.
Contract and hold for 30 seconds. Rest a few seconds in between. Do this times three.
Squeeze and release to the beat of a song.
If you stick to a kegal routine, not only will you reduce the queefing and stop any problems you may have with leaking when you laugh or cough, but you will have stronger and more powerful orgasms. And who doesn’t want that?
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Oh lord yes to the deodorant. A little dry hands or tite grip on the pits is a good deodorant substitute for performing, especially if you’re ultra sweaty like me and that itself would make you slip as it does me.