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I didn’t know that’s what caused that. I have nasty calluses on my feet because I dance on carpet and I’ve been getting these horrifying blisters making huge pieces of skin come off and it’s raw underneath and takes weeks to heal. So. Gross. Not. Fun.
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If alcohol is expensive in your location, I’ve had very similar results with plain white distilled vinegar. It just doesn’t evaporate as quickly so you want to use a very lightly dampened towel and of course it’s a little bit stinky. But it’s super el cheapo, doesn’t irritate my skin like alcohol, and makes my pole feel nice and clean and sticky just like alcohol.
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I should add in full disclosure that I haven’t tried x-pole’s brass. I have used the TG x-pole in 50 and 45 and I have used poledanzer brass permanent poles in 50. I found both to be a little scary under certain sweaty conditions, but I prefer the TG to brass definitely.
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As a person with sweaty hands, I’ll say that I’m not a fan of brass or TG. As soon as I start to sweat they become impossibly slippery in some places and dangerously sticky in others. Don’t believe everything you hear about there being some standard progression of surfaces. Usually you’ll hear basically that stainless is slipperiest, then chrome, then TG/brass and powder coat. But that doesn’t apply to everyone! Stainless is grippiest for me.
I suggest poking around a little and trying out other people’s poles. Just getting your hands on the finish for five minutes will probably tell you more about your own pole preferences than anything you’ll figure out from us saying what we prefer.
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This usually means that the pole is over-tightened. Typically if the pole is over-tightened, the easiest way to tell is that you’ll feel it spin “unevenly,” like there’s a bump in the middle of the spin or something when you turn it with your hand. I would try loosening the adjustor a bit and see if that helps. It’s very easy to over tighten, I still do it all the time and let’s just say I’ve put up and taken down many a pole in my time. 🙂
If that doesn’t fix it, give x-pole customer service a buzz, you can ask them about possibly directions for greasing the spin mechanism or making sure there’s nothing mechanically wrong.
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And if we say “OMG THIS IS DIRTY AND YOU SHOULDN’T BE DOING IT” that is going to send some very slut shaming messages to an 8 year old who is fast approaching that very confusing time in her life.
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I’m also very sensitive to the sexualization of kids, but keep this in perspective y’all. There are several studios out there that let kids take pole and aerial classes, in fact I can think of five just off the top of my head.
Keep in mind that if a kid wants to grow up to compete at an elite level, that training usually starts younger than 8. I might not push my kid to be an elite athlete because that in and of itself threatens childhood, but that’s reality for people with that goal.
Moreover, I see this as exactly identical to training for cheer leading, ballroom dance, rhythmic gymnastics, or modern/hip hop dance. In ALL of those sports, kids learn some kind of sexy moves, especially with modern dance, because it they want to be competitive, they have to know it. It’s the 18 and 19 year old dancers who get a lot of the work out there, and there’s a certain modern dance style that is marketable and has some of those sexy moves and you can’t expect someone to make a living dancing if you don’t show them any of those moves until they’re 16 out of fear that it will corrupt them. Frankly, this girl’s dance was NOT what I would call “sexy style.” And if I had done that particular dance she did I would NOT have been ashamed to have an 8 year old in the audience. It did have some movements that could BECOME sensual movement when she’s old enough to be aware of that, but this dance was not sexy, it was more demonstrating fundamentals of pole.
As long as the girl isn’t out there dancing in strip clubs, if she’s performing for these supportive “pole people” crowds, I don’t see any harm being done to her.
In these situations, I think we need to remember that we are looking at her performance with an adult understanding that the dancer herself does not have and is not aware of. And I think whenever you have a kid training in a sport that does have some sexual connotations, and all the ones I listed certainly do just as much as pole, what’s important is that a kid has good supportive adults in their life who are willing to help their kid grow in understanding of their sport and prepare for the adult world they are entering.
At the end of the day, I wouldn’t have a problem with my daughter poling from a young age and as she approaches adulthood incorporating that into discussions about adult sexuality and what sex and being sexy means for responsible and empowered adult women. I would feel like it’s my responsibility to show my kid that there is sex and some people with bad attitudes about sex out there. I would rather my kids grow up with sex as a TOTALLY open topic with me rather than trying to shelter them as long as possible.
FWIW, I grew up in a house where I was “protected from sex as long as possible” and it backfired HUGELY into my adult life because no adult ever talked openly with me and I wasn’t prepared. I think if you started a kid poling early and they stuck with it as they grew older it would be an amazing tool for teaching about healthy adult sexuality and keeping that topic open with my kids so they know they can come to me first.
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Glitter and I just hijacked bendy buddies yesterday for a video pole jam 🙂
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I made mine with some spare PVC pipe I had laying around and a $5 firm but squishy floor mat from wal-mart and duct tape. Works great!
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That ring of silicone going round the top dome is just soft enough to contour to your ceiling-that’s what it was designed to do. Same with the floor plate. When you think about it, knowing how many people have textured ceilings or slightly imperfect hardwood floors, it makes sense that they would make the mounting pieces able to work with textures without destroying them.
That said, when I put my xpole up on popcorn I did see a few little pieces flake off when I took it down, but you would have to know where the pole was and go look up close to see that it was there.
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I also have very sweaty hands, actually my whole body drips with sweat too, I'm the sweaty pig monster. And I also find brass almost impossible to work with when I'm warm and sweating. The body sticks painfully yet I can't even do a fireman spin-no hand grip at all.
I find the best finish for me to be stainless steel. When pole and I are both warm, I stick like glue to the point where the skin on my hands starts to peel. Of course I still get to that point of sweatyness where I have to just wipe down with a cool wet towel and cool off for a minute. But when I'm on stainless, I can pole for longer, wipe the pole fewer times, and apply much less grip aid.
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Might have been the guy from jasmine dragons, he is known for pole and break dance.
You could also show him this:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1lmejPu2CPk&feature=youtube_gdata_player
It’s a different style but also a straight guy, he is married even! And may I say an absolute heartthrob…IMO he is crazy sexy in this video. The cute confidence but not cockiness and the playfulness about him.
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It helps to remember to use the same method with the spin/static hex screws as you do with the joints and go back and forth. Sometimes just tightening one then the other doesn’t get it all the way. If it’s still loosening right away on you, sometimes they really slather on the lube and it can make it easy to unstick. So you can try completely unscrewing the hex screws, then just very gently pinch it between a paper towel with your fingers and lightly twist to remove excess and it might grab a little better.
But yes mine (an original xpole) does wiggle a little bit on static. It doesn’t HURT anything and once you are used to it you genuinely won’t notice.
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Yes Andrea is AWESOME and I love her to tiny pieces. Line up y’all, she’s amazing!
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Um check out Rixi’s chopsticks in her profile pic. If I can ever do splits like that I’ll die happy hahaha