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There’s already some really good advice here but please keep in mind that you can only increase muscle definition (at any level of strength!) by decreasing your body fat %. If you’re really working out and eating a BALANCED diet and your body fat % isn’t budging, then you should work on accepting what your body looks like at its healthiest. I certainly had a different picture of what I thought my body would look like years down the line…my body changed in ways I wasn’t expecting. But I find it helps to look at yourself in the mirror as a WHOLE and not allowing yourself to look at or pick at specific body parts. If your eyes drift to one place on your body, pull them back and look at the whole. Observe the proportions. Think of your body in terms of what it DOES for you; acknowledge that your body looks the way it does because of all that it does for you.
Most women would really have to do unhealthy things to their bodies to be able to have rippling muscles. Some of us are made for that look and some of us just aren’t. Remember to stick with what is HEALTHY and appreciate what healthy looks like FOR YOU.
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Sorry about the double post! I wish we had a delete button. 🙁
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I lova love luurrrrvveee my divacup. I acually finally bought it about a year al after years of curiosity because of another thread here about it.
I noticed a few people here saying they don’t work great for you/can feel them/aren’t your favorite thing. I experimented with flipping mine inside out before inserting. It works a lot better on days my cervix is low because it makes it shorter. I also found that the suggested forward placement leaks for me. I have to slide mine up further so it sits around my cervix like a diaphragm/cervical cap. I can kind of feel when it lands in the right spot, then I just run my finger in a circle around the edge to make sure it’s all around my cervix, then I get no leaks and I’m good to go!
Now one of my ovaries isn’t as nice as the other, so approximately every other cycle has heavier bleeding and cramps. I do occasionally use super heavy duty tampons for the first day or two or backup my cup with a liner (not a pad, just a thin liner. Pads be bads.) on those cycles just because I’m changing so frequently.
Where it’s really a godsend is that if I’m expecting my period, I can wear it the whole day before and the day after to catch spotting without worry of TSS like you would have if you were wearing a tampon.
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I lova love luurrrrvveee my divacup. I acually finally bought it about a year al after years of curiosity because of another thread here about it.
I noticed a few people here saying they don’t work great for you/can feel them/aren’t your favorite thing. I experimented with flipping mine inside out before inserting. It works a lot better on days my cervix is low because it makes it shorter. I also found that the suggested forward placement leaks for me. I have to slide mine up further so it sits around my cervix like a diaphragm/cervical cap. I can kind of feel when it lands in the right spot, then I just run my finger in a circle around the edge to make sure it’s all around my cervix, then I get no leaks and I’m good to go!
Now one of my ovaries isn’t as nice as the other, so approximately every other cycle has heavier bleeding and cramps. I do occasionally use super heavy duty tampons for the first day or two or backup my cup with a liner (not a pad, just a thin liner. Pads be bads.) on those cycles just because I’m changing so frequently.
Where it’s really a godsend is that if I’m expecting my period, I can wear it the whole day before and the day after to catch spotting without worry of TSS like you would have if you were wearing a tamp
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If you’re wrapping your feet around the pole, and the pain is in your feet you should definitely listen to what your body is telling you and learn to climb properly. The bottoms of your feet should never be involved in climbing or staying on the pole. It’s incredibly dangerous and damaging to the very fragile soft tissues in the foot. I suggest investing in veena’s video lessons if you haven’t already. She does a great job illustrating the basic climb. As an instructor, I firmly believe that beginners should not “teach themselves” the basic climb because there are a lot of variables going on that all need to happen at once that aren’t really possible notice from just watching videos of people climbing, such as what muscles are being engaged and what parts of the body are using lateral “pushing” force.
But without watching you climb, I can’t really say exactly why it’s not working for you. Climbing is really not an easy thing to get down, good luck!
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I want to also add that, whenever they list what organization is being donated to, you should also look up that research organization.
Some “charities” take over 90% of all the money they take in as “overhead.” This means they are PAYING THEMSELVES with donation money and using only 10% on actual charity causes/research. Only donate to organizations who take as low of an overhead cut as possible to know that your money went to a good cause. Susan G. Komen for the cure has had some criticism of how much overhead they take. It’s something to be aware of. Everyone wants their cut
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Sorry to resurrect an old post, bad form. But I did this post a disservice a while ago, and it needs to be corrected.
Today I read a post on Charley’s FB asking this same question. A lot of thoughts came to my mind at once.
I’ve been poling for two years now, progressed to a level that I didn’t know if I’d be able to achieve, and transitioned to being a teacher to some really awesome students. And, I think most importantly, I’ve spent the last year really working on myself. With the support and encouragement of some friends very close to my heart, a lot has changed.
I’ve struggled with body image all my life- and those issues will always be a part of me. But now, I see in my reflection how far I have come. When I look in the mirror, I see progress and potential. I see a body that was worked for, a physique that is earned. When people give me compliments, I don’t feel compelled to reject that gift by disagreeing. I don’t carry that burden; I’m free to just say “thank you.” And I know each compliment represents a kind of gift. I try to carry them as such.
When I’m hard on myself now, it’s because I want to push myself to progress, not because I want to push myself down for how I look. I still have issues with my body, mostly because women’s clothing isn’t designed with a strong, flat-chested upper body in mind. But you’ll never hear me bash myself for those muscles. I earned them. I own them. They’re mine. And every line of muscle you can see on my body is a love letter from me to myself, because I know now that I love the person in this body-and I love the body that has carried this person so far.
Anyone out there reading who feels more like my posts up top than the post down here- don’t give up on yourself. You can free yourself from all that hate. It can be done.
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Ellen- you just pull up and get the shoulder over like you were going into a hood ornament or setting up to go into a chopper from superman. Once the pit grip is secure, you pull the legs up and open in a V to the Teddy. I’d never thought of it until I saw David do it.
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David Owen showed me my new favorite out this weekend: superman to Teddy. So cute.
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I don't often apply grip to the pole itself, just my sweaty pig hands and body. But for the purposes of applying directly to the pole, I highly reccomend grrrip because you can get it in a spray bottle. Spray directly on pole, let dry, perfect coverage.
For my ultra sweaty hands, I've used mighty grip (hate it) grrrip (love it) and dry hands (love it).
For hands AND body, I've used both light and medium . The medium seems to work for me. Haven't tried the full. I wound up with the because polefitmom hated it…but it seems to work for me in certain applications. As with all grip aids, it seems nothing works 100% of the time. They're as conditional as my grip itself. Sometimes, I just get too sweaty and have to stop.
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I bet it's hoop lessons. Someone mentioned it in chat today and she didn't say anything back….
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I absolutely love parkour and I'm soooo happy to see gyms for it popping up. Their staff just looks like such a fun group…definitely the sort of people who make you want to throw yourself off a building in a good way!
It's a sport that trains you to build up as much potential energy as you can, working with the physics of the human body, and unleash that force in a controlled fashion. You'll notice the "spring-like" action of the body…you can actually see the recoil of the impacts and how their bodies transfer the force. I've never seen it so well choreographed as it is here. What an inspiring and great video, thanks for sharing!
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Here's a recent vid on SV of a user with the mipole dance light:
https://www.studioveena.com/videos/view/4e563971-b9ac-4cb7-b65a-30ce0ac37250
Might be worth asking her more about it. She seems to love it. I think it might work with x-poles since it looks like it clamps to the very top of the pole itself and not the dome.
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Everyone has already said the eloquent stuff. I’ll just add my motto:
Simple monkeys. Banana in one hand, penis in the other. Remember this always. They aren’t that critical!
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Cricket, Natasha I presume?- I took Kelly's seminar. It was absolutely amazing. She opened up new possibilities for me, and I feel it's brought out some new strengths and opportunities as well. I'm hearing my music a different way, I'm understanding movement in a new way, and I'm even thinking about the act of performing and competing in a new way, which I'd never considered. She's an inspiring presence with an infectious energy. My favorite thing about her process is that she's expanded the ways in which I can develop an emotional connection to music by finding the concepts that unite a sound with a movement. Not only has that added a new depth to my listening, it's made it easier for me to remember choreography as well. I won't shut up about her to anyone who asks, even though I'm sure you already know all these things about her. 🙂