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Phoenix- I have big ribs, so I’m lucky most OTR fit ok. I’m just not squishy which makes cinching harder.
But I’m the same in that no matter how small I get I don’t get a waist- my current waist s only 2″ smaller than my underbust and, even when I was anorexic (I also had no period for 2 around years) I still never had a curvy torso, very straight up and down. I’m like 38/32/36… hardly hourglass.When people ask me if I have trouble breathing when I wear my corset I point out that a) my lungs aren’t in my waist and b) pregnancy moves the internal organs around far more than corsets, so our internal organs are designed to move and shift.
Also, corsets weren’t a way of oppressing women, they developed from Stays which helped to support the very heavy weight of the clothes women wore back then, which put an enormous amount of stress on the back.
They also helped to support the breasts as bras weren’t invented yet.
Tightlacing or cinching in the waist significantly didn’t start until much later (the Victorian era IIRC) and again, corsets actually helped women with the weight of all those layers.
Also, fainting rarely comes about as a result of corset wearing. Back in the day it was the done thing to be seen as fragile and it was a handy way to either gain attention from a beau or to avoid confrontation by having a ~fainting spell~.
The move against corsets was started, in part, by manufacturing businesses who were trying to introduce the girdle, so there was a conflict of interest and those famous x-rays weren’t particularly precise as even the Dr acknowledged that the women was wearing the corset much higher than she normally would.
As for broken ribs and split livers, pish posh- it’s all urban legends (as is the myth that you can have your floating ribs removed to get a smaller waist). -
Oh Hai fellow tightlacer! Hey 🙂 I have a couple of mesh cs-411’s from orchard corset and they’re great, but my dream is a handmade one from contour corsets because she specialises in asymetrical designs.
I also really like a cupped rib rather than a connical rib, like sugar kitty’s corsets (she doesn’t make them any more though). Madame Sher also has some stunners. But $400+ is a lot of dough.
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Thanks Phoenix- I reckon some of it is bound to be tightness.
I haven’t had a massage in over 10+ years (I’m not very touchy-feely and just forget they’re good for you) even when I was doing crossfit and during my surgeries- I’m sure 1 1/2 years on crutches probably screwed up things a bit too.
I have really big lats and a naturally strong back but have always had a hard time building my shoulders (although my triceps always build up easily). I guess we all have a couple of areas that are slower to develop than others. -
Also, my corset helps a lot with anxiety (you feel contained, physically wrapped) and it can even help with rectus distatsis or even worse- there are quite a few medical applications aside from helping with scoliosis.
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I’m not going to get into a debate about corsets but the vast majority of the info out there is incorrect 1900’s rubbish. Lucy, from bisonenrancher on youtube, is one of the best sources of reliable science based info out there for anyone interested.
I used to wear a brace to help my scoliosis, my corset does the same thing. I specifically do core exercises (normally, not the last few years obviously with a fractured pelvis etc) to maintain my core strength.
I also have huge lats from lifting- i used to deadlift over 240lbs. So I have experience with back strength, just not shoulder neutral strength. -
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MemberJune 7, 2015 at 4:12 am in reply to: Because I love all things dance clothing related, what are your fave clothes for warm up?Thanks everyone, I think I might risk the 48 inch ones.
And I feel your pain Phoenix, I find it hard not to feel super down about my body the way it is right now (although my boobs look amazing haha) but I am definitely already seeing real changes in my strength which is super encouraging 🙂
And Lucca, they look great on you and you move beautifully 🙂 -
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MemberJune 7, 2015 at 12:43 am in reply to: Because I love all things dance clothing related, what are your fave clothes for warm up?Lucca which ones are they? I clicked the link but only got their main page… I have heard that the body wrapper 40″ leg warmers are very tight around the thigh if you’re not very thin (and I have muscly legs) but I really want a pair of super long leg warmers that do stay up.
Very keen to know which brand/style have worked so well for you 🙂 -
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MemberJune 6, 2015 at 3:09 am in reply to: Because I love all things dance clothing related, what are your fave clothes for warm up? -
I don’t have any scales at home because I’m a recovered anorexic so it’s way (weigh haha) too triggering.
I was weighed at my Dr’s because I could see how much weight I had gained and couldn’t fit in to any of my normal clothes, so we decided to see if I had gained as much as I had feared and it was actually worse.
I know muscle mass will weigh more, I always go by body fat because that’s what I care about, I just happen to know that I am in the mid 60’s rather than mid 50’s (kg) weight wise. -
“And because I KNOW what body type he is USED to seeing without clothes on, I KNOW I don’t measure up to those standards and I will be a huge letdown.. ”
Personally? Don’t do it.
Seriously, it doesn’t sound like you’re into it at all, and I don’t mean that in a bad way, I mean that in a “why put yourself in a situation that makes you unhappy and stressed” way.
You are setting your expectations so low, you aren’t going to feel good about yourself going into it feeling like this, so why push it? Wait until you have some more confidence and aren’t so down on yourself.
Pole dancing is about letting go in many ways and, unless you’re dancing for work (which I assume you’re not) it’s something you should be doing for yourself and the enjoyment of it.
I don’t understand why you are pushing yourself to do something that seems to be making you so unhappy with yourself. It makes me feel really sad 🙁 -
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MemberJune 1, 2015 at 7:54 pm in reply to: Curious about the two step powder coating finishTamarinda- I just googled powder coating and my local area and got a couple of businesses that do it.
I was expecting the price to be around $100 or even more but it’s only going to cost $40 for a standard colour, although up to $80 if I want a fancy colour.
I rang around a few places and they all quoted me roughly the same price too 🙂
It works out to be a LOT cheaper than buying a brass pole insert, which is what I’ve been considering $210 for that). -
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MemberMay 31, 2015 at 9:00 pm in reply to: Curious about the two step powder coating finishThanks Veena, will do. I’m still debating getting a brass pole but I live in a coastal town and worry that the air might be too corrosive. But I do love brass
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MemberMay 27, 2015 at 4:11 am in reply to: Beginners trying advanced moves before they’re readyhaha, yes, I saw some pretty reckless things over the years, thankfully I only ever saw one bad accident and it was the fault of the club, not the girl;
The club had a flying fox type contraption that broke as she was riding on it to the stage and she landed on her feet wearing stripper heels 🙁
She broke her ankle really badly and had to fight tooth and nail to get any compensation because we’re viewed as sub contractors and therefore not covered by workers comp.
But, because the flying fox broke pretty much every health and safety law she won some sort of payout, but AFAIK she was never able to dance again. And she was an ex ballet dancer and gymnast, so it was a huge part of her life outside of the clubs.
I remember seeing her fall and just thinking “oh shit” while some douche-canoe turned to his mate and said “you can see her snatch!” as she lay on the floor. The management didn’t even want to call an ambulance at first until they realised she was really hurt. Happy to take the house fee but not look after us when shit gets real, you know?Of course, I saw some amazing things too- there was one woman who was doing a feature show and the music was pumping and the crowd was cheering as she strutted up to the stage stairs.
Well, she didn’t see the little lip at the edge and she *full on* tripped onto the stage. She proceeded to turn it into this clever little shoulder roll and just killed it.
I think only me and a couple of other girls even noticed, she was so cool calm and collected. I remember thinking if that had been me IDK what I would have done, but I doubt I would have handled it with so much style (unless running away crying is considered stylish? lol).I also saw my first ever suicide drop at work and was just amazed, it was such a great show (yet another gal who had a gymnastics background). IDK if they’re actually called suicide drops but it’s when you’re up high and inverted, facing the pole, and then you loosen the leg’s grip and drop down/free fall then stop at the last second.
It looks amazing, athletic and terrifying all at the same time… I love the idea but don’t know if I could ever have the courage to try that particular move hahaAnd I definitely try to take it (reasonably) easy at home, I’m just having to learn that my body doesn’t have the strength that it used to, and that expecting to be able to do what it could 12 years ago is unrealistic and potentially dangerous.
Ahh well, more strength exercises 😉 -
I am looking at getting my pole powder coated and was just wondering if you know what the two step process is called so I can find out if they offer it at the place I’m looking at.
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Emma -
Yes, I had 3 major surgeries between 2012 and last year. It was supposed to be one surgery but I had numerous complications. I ended up on crutches for a year and a half and I still use a cane some days.
I went from being 55kg doing crossfit 3-4 times a week to 65+kg and being completely and utterly sedentary, with so much weight around my belly, no stamina, no strength, nothing.
It has been incredibly hard for me to get back into pole work because I feel so down about how weak and out of shape I am.
but I find if I just put some music on and dance for a while my mood lifts and, even if I can’t do the moves I used to do (ie drop splits), I am seeing my strength improve almost daily.
I can climb the pole now many times over where as when I first got my pole last month I couldn’t even do one climb.
I know how frustrating and overwhelming it can be but you’ll be amazed at how the body remembers, but it will take time.
Em x