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Ah, nothing says "feminism" like women telling other women that they cannot and should not be empowered by anything that may be sexual/sensual. Ha! It’s almost laughable. I consider myself a feminist, and pole has helped me become even more of a fighter for women. We ARE sexual and sensual and some (if not most) of us WANT AND NEED to let it out. From the moment we are born we are covered up as if our bodies are dirty. You see little girls who have no breasts yet, wearing bikini tops when swimming while the boys are allowed to go topless. Why? At that stage their upper bodies are identical. We are conditioned from the get go to be modest about our own bodies and pick other females apart. T.V. shows today openly have story plots about teenage boys going through their "masturbation phase" and it is accepted and laughed with. No mention of teenage girls discovering their bodies in the same way, just another message sent to girls that they are not to be sexual or enjoy sex unless a male is involved.
These articles and their writers are just fueling the fire! I CAN’T STAND fake feminists. Yes, society often makes women sex objects, and it sucks. But I don’t think that it means I should suppress my sensual side for fear that men might have sex fantasies about me. I’ve felt degraded many times by men while innocently standing in the grocery store line or walking down the street! If that’s going to happen I might as well do what makes me feel happy, and that is pole. After reading articles like this, I can’t help but think that these "feminists" have the same mentality as the extreme religions/cultures that cover their women up from head to toe to keep men from fantasizing about them (like that helps). Why do women need to suffer because some men can’t handle themselves? Why can’t women, under any circumstances, be sexual? Articles like this hint that it’s women like us who are to blame for the way women are treated in society. hmmmm. This blaming of women isn’t such a new idea and is definately not something that any true feminist would think or say.
Pole dancing was not an act of desperation for me to get my husbands (or any males) attention. In fact, other than spotting me occassionally to make sure I don’t fall and crack my head open, my husband hasn’t ever seen me dance. It has NOTHING to do with him, but EVERYTHING to do with me. I dance in my bedroom or dance studio for and to myself and feel fantastic afterwards. What is wrong and degrading about that? I suppose this is where the "feminist" would say "why does it have to be sexual? Why do you have to do it on a phalic symbol like a pole?" Where I say:
"Because I am sexual and sensual and sick to death of hiding it. And what dance doesn’t have a sexual/sensual side? If you believe women should be equals, then shouldn’t that include showing that we are equal sexually? Men can be open about how sexual they are, why not women? Because someone (like you) will take it the wrong way? That’s just encouraging the suppression of women and their sexuality."
As far as the men not being allowed in class thing, I suppose it never occurred to any of these "feminists" that it’s for the comfort of the women taking the class? It’s the same reason there are "women only "gyms. These writers are taking the issue of the class being "women only" and interpreting to mean that it’s grooming women to be sexy and hot for their lovers. It’s so ridiculous that these people can’t think beyond themselves and their own comfort levels.
And…uh…let’s not forget what an amazing workout it is!!!!
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Hi! Sorry about the late response, but I’m sure you have figured that I am not coming to the jam today. My husband is working till 1. sigh. Please let me know about the next jam! I have a lil mynx, which requires a small hook in the ceiling, so I probably can’t bring my pole (that and it’s 8 ft of solid pole, it doesn’t come apart in pieces for easy moving). We could always do jam at my house too, I think I have room in my room for one more pole.
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luvs2dance- I would love to come! It all depends on my husbands schedule though. He usually has to work Saturdays but sometimes he’s off. We have a 2 year old and one car so it makes every little plan I try to make quite the ordeal. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_smile.gif I’ll try to find out tonight and see if he knows if he’s off yet! That would be fun!!! I’ll let you know as soon as I know. How does a pole jam work? Do we bring our own poles or just play on one?
keilioces( I think I just totally botched the spelling of your name)-OOOOOOOO habits sounds like a blast!!!! I had no idea! I’m taking Pole-ga-lates at Soiree tonight, maybe I’ll stop by habits for a bit afterwards. I don’t know, sometimes that class KILLS me so I’ll see how I feel! But I’ll probably be there next week! Is it basically just an open pole or are there lessons taught? I just looked through your profile and recognize you from Soiree! In fact I’m pretty sure you co taught my intro class! ha! Studio Blue seems awesome. They were on the morning show the other day, wow what a cool place! Are you doing ariel silks and hoops as well as pole? So cool.
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I’m taking classes at Studio Soiree and I just realized when I looked at your profile that I took a beginner core class with you the other day!!! ha ha! We were right next to eachother, and it was your friends first class! That’s so weird! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_lol.gif We definately have to do a pole jam. I’m in Murray. I’m usually available evenings, depending on the night, and weekends. I’m a stay at home mom, but my husbands schedule is pretty rough so it really just depends on the week! Awesome!
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Yes! Please let me know when you jam! I would love to join! Thanks! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_biggrin.gif
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It’s not slimey, but I’ll notice little black build ups on it. Like it’s really dirty. I always wash my hand before dancing to wash off any oils so I know it’s not dirt from my hands. It’s really weird and kind of hard to wash off. I didn’t have that problem with the windex though.
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Wow! Thanks everyone! I also grabbed the first bottle of alcohol I found and it’s 70%. I’m still not sold on the grip thing, but I noticed that after doing spins there is a weird dirty film on the pole. I used windex at my last practice and it was definately more slippery than the alcohol cleaning. I’ll go get a microfiber cloth and invite some friends over to help me break it in!!! I had a dream last night that it was suddenly sticky. ha ha. This must really be weighing heavy on my mind! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_lol.gif
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oooo Megs! That elbow stand stretch sounds good! I’m definately going to try it!
Veena- I hadn’t noticed that you added stretching but Yay!!! that’s exactly what I was hoping for! Thank you! -
So, when doing splits (or at least trying to do the splits) should our front foot be flexed or pointed? Just wondering if there is a set way to do it or if it’s just a preference either way?
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what kind of shorts are you wearing? If you buy tighter "booty shorts" you shouldn’t have that problem. Something that clings to your thighs. Did you look at some of the pictures of shorts that were posted in this thread? they are all very short and basically hug your thighs, with such short inseams that they don’t really move out of the way to show your goods. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_lol.gif -
Thanks Ladies!
Yes, I am really struggling with "loving" my pole right now. It just really bugs me to not be able to fully practice on it. I got some rubbing alcohol and gave it a good rub down. I was practicing my CKR on it last night and kept sliding down so I don’t think it helped much. However I have a huge bruise on my inner thigh today, so maybe my skin was gripping better than I thought!
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WOW!! Thanks everyone! Off to do some online shopping!!!!
