Rachel Osborne
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Right now…
Sugababes Too Lost in You
Nina Simone Sugar in My Bowl
Florence and the Machine Dog Days Are Over
Chris Isaak Wicked Game
Aerosmith Dream On -
Johnsdeere
For you…
http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=3XZMAfk2quYPoling on brass carousel horses…
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I want my husband to get back from NYC NOW so he can do this shizz with his head and a rolling pin…
http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=aYXqFuYdn5o
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Try this…
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Also I deliberately take my 3 year old to the play park with a pole so I can practice. Even though the slides are a bit crap and he prefers much nearer play park with no pole and a bouncy castle.
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Yep: me on floor in Pilates/yoga/ballet studio ‘ooh you could fit 4 poles in here..,’
Me looking at cross fit outdoor training construction: ‘just sneak in a quick shoulder mount’.
Cross fit muscle man appears out of nowhere: ”wtf I have to try’ [fails]
Me: ‘try this’ [does flag]
Cross fit man: ‘no way got to try’ [sort of does it for 2 seconds]
Me: ‘lol give this a go’ [chopper]
Man: ‘how long you been doing cross fit then?’
Me: ‘I don’t. I just do pole’
Man: ‘huh?’I leave him trying to shoulder mount.
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Thank you! I was watching this http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=1FQ9L5CIG-k and she was quite clear that you have to put your knee pit on your shoulder: I tried in class with a spotter from the floor and from a flag hold and hit 2 issues:
1. My shoulders are small and my thigh bone long so it was hard to get knee pit over shoulder. However I was able to balance back of thigh on tricep and lock on with hip pocket,
But then2. I was too close to ground to get other leg up and into splits!
I managed it after a few goes but think I need to be up pole to make it work, but then I get into problems holding on with bottom leg whilst I get top leg up and over.
I have splits and am flexible and can hold Western flag with both legs straight so I don’t think it’s a strength or flexi issue, more that I can’t quite get the position right.
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There are lots of us over 40 and up a pole
https://www.studioveena.com/forums/view/Are_you_over_40_and_up_a_pole_Check_in_here__20140416075814😉
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Ps. Web Junk and others, this is a great site with people being so thoughtful and helpful to fellow polers 🙂 ty
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Well done, let’s hope he stops making you feel uncomfortable.
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There doesn’t need to be a fear of violence for a course of conduct to constitute harassment in the UK; it just needs to be a course of conduct (more than twice is a course if conduct) causing alarm and distress. We have 2 laws; Malicious Communications Act 1989 and The Protection from Harassment Act 2010. Both use European HR law. In both Acts the test is whether a reasonable person ought to have known the conduct was causing alarm or distress: a clear request to desist covers this and stopping FB contact.
However this isn’t currently criminal harassment: it is a work matter if a colleague is subjecting another colleague to unwelcome attention. So far he has not done so at work but blocking FB and reminding him that they are professional colleagues only is the professional thing to do, and if he causes any issues at work HR should get involved.
Yes anyone can view any public posts made, and images, we are at cross purposes here, sorry Web Junk. I meant as a colleague he has no right to expect FB access to her personal life and if she feels the fact they work together is preventing her from blocking him then that means it has already crossed over into her working life. Telling him they are just colleagues and confining all communication to work matters is appropriate and reasonable; work should support her in this and he can’t claim she is causing him any issues by reminding him of their professional relationship.
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Web junk, it’s pretty clear from the link that you provided that appropriate professional
Conduct is about respect and it specifically states that employees should not harass each other…European law is particularly strong regarding harassment and human rights.
Blocking FB access to a colleague who has made inappropriate remarks is not a violation of his rights or harassment, nor is reminding him at work that they are colleagues only a violation of his rights. What right to see her doing spits in brief shorts and major suggestive remarks does he have? What right to make her feel uncomfortable does he have?
None!There is no right to harass and no right to FB contact.
I would hate for Lina to think she ran the risk of being fired by telling a colleague to stay professional – it’s not the case at all in Europe that such a thing would happen. Perhaps the US is very different.
But even the link you provided opens with
‘It is this Company’s policy that employees maintain a working environment that encourages
mutual respect, promotes civil and congenial relationships among employees and
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It has already crossed over to work; if he wasn’t a work colleague she wouldn’t still be in contact and its because he was a work colleague that she feels she had to accept his FB request out of politeness. It needs pointing out that they are only work colleagues and work colleagues only.
How is this harassing him? If she points it out at work? She is not to blame for being subjected to unwelcome attention.
It is simply drawing attention to the appropriate professional truth.She only need to deal with him and communicate with him at work
She owes him nothing more.
She should certainly not have to put up with unwelcome personal remarks for a colleague simply because he is a colleague. And her work should support her in drawing appropriate professional lines – not victim blaming.As women we are sometimes too worried about offending people and think we should just put up with it; no. Nobody has to put up with being made to feel uncomfortable by a colleague remarking on their personal life, their body, and nobody owes a colleague a picture of themselves dancing in shorts.
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Oh yeah, and the slightest feeling that he’s not understood or is going to be difficult in any way after your verbal, informal warning-off (preferably in front of witness) follow up with an email from your work email saying it again
‘Just to confirm that I’m happy with our professional relationship as colleagues but don’t feel comfortable with you commenting on my personal Facebook stuff like fitness training; so I’ve blocked you – it’s what feels most comfortable and professional for me – thanks, Lina’
Then you have a paper trail if you need it. 🙂
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I would say to him, in work, preferably in front of a reliable witness colleague
‘I’m happy to have a good professional relationship with you and am pleased with the work we have done together with our colleagues but I don’t feel comfortable having you viewing and commenting on my personal life Facebook posts. To make our working relationship feel more comfortable and professional for me, I’m going to block Facebook contact. It’s not personal – it’s just that I have decided what works best for me and the company is to keep work and personal stuff separate.’Then block him plus a few other people and make sure all work stuff is very professional and preferably with other people there.
If he moans,
Just smile politely and repeat ‘I’ve decided what works best for me and the company is to keep professional and personal stuff separate.’Make a note of anything that makes you feel not comfortable and withdraw, just stay very professional and detached. Imagine a documentary film crew is recording you making a video about how to handle unwanted attention from colleagues.
And speak to HR, taking in any notes or diary of unwanted and inappropriate attention.
Because if you ask them to stop in a way a reasonable person would understand, and they carry on, it’s harassment.
Good luck