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I took Seroquel several years ago. I was on a very low (12.5 mg/day) dosage, but noticed if I did not get a full 8 hours (or more) of sleep it left me very tired and disoriented, a similar feeling to being drunk. I was on it for about 8 months (stopped due to insurance / financial issues) but those side effects did not fade with time. With adequate sleep it was a wonder drug, but I had to take it EXACTLY on time or skip it for that evening, unless it was a weekend and I could sleep as late as needed. (NOTE: I'm not advising you to skip your meds.) I don't know the level of structure you have to your life or how sensitive you are to medications in general, but if, while helping you, it's causing other problems, talk to your doctor. It could be a matter of timing, or your dosage might be too high, but he/she is the only one, other than you, who knows your full history and is qualified to make such decisions. My psychiatrist admits it can be a crapshoot trying to find the right medication and the right dosage, and my psychologist advises that the best one can do for themselves is to get enough sleep, eat a healthy diet, and get plenty of exercise. Once your medication issues are straightened out and your physical healing period are through, I can't imagine why your diagnosis would preclude you from continuing on the pole. If you love pole dancing/fitnesss – whatever you prefer to call it – then don't walk away from it. In any case, do know that there are others here who understand.
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My oldest daughter is almost nine and I see it as a wonderful thing for her. For the past year or so, she has been asking if she is too fat (nowhere close), turning down food, and standing sideways in front of the mirror, poking at her belly and sucking it in. When I was trying to lose weight after having my second child, it got worse and other family members started voicing concerns about her body image and behaviors. I have two poles, one in my room and the other in our family room, and she’s on one or the other all the time. We’re using it to shift her focus from being “skinny” toward being strong. She likes to show off her muscles and what she can do. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_smile.gif
My husband initially had the same concerns about how it might influence her as she goes into her teen years, and what other people might say. When I got my first pole and put it up, I told her it was for dancing and exercise, and she immediately asked, “Like on ‘My Name is Earl?” It wasn’t an easy or comfortable conversation, but I told her the truth. I can tell she is trying to figure things out when we’re watching TV and a comment is made about women’s bodies, but I can’t shield her from that reality any more than I can prevent her from growing up. What I CAN do is to help her be confident in her body and her sexuality so that as those pressures increase, her choices are made from a place of strength. I don’t wear heels or do any booty moves in front of her, but I have seen her “grinding” on the pole and shaking her butt in the mirror, and I just let it go.
As far as other parents are concerned, I agree with what Jacki C said above. Those who are going to pass judgment without questioning their own prejudices are not the sort of people I want around my family. If my daughter tells her friends, or if other parents see the poles in my house, I’m happy to discuss it if they are interested or have questions. I don’t allow other people’s children to play on them (I don’t want to be held responsible if someone gets hurt), but our home reflects our interests, our values, and who we are. We don’t try to offend, but unless it’s illegal or immoral we make no apologies for what we do here.
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All – I hope I wasn’t out of line in my comments about the particular pole Scoop linked above. That may be the case considering my “newbie” status, but it was not at all my intent to offend anyone by violating the norms amongst the other members here. My goal was only to help someone who I thought was maybe very interested and excited, but perhaps inexperienced and in a different financial reality than I assume most others here are. I am very honest about my level of knowledge and experience, so again, my apologies if I’ve stepped over any boundaries. I tried to make clear what I know and what my thoughts are likely worth. The possibility of my error should be obvious.
Scoop – If you can afford it, or have the means and opportunity to save for an x-pole, I agree with the others that that is what you should do. While my pole did not look in any point like the photo posted above (all visible parts are metal, joints are smooth, and the ring is a pliable, clear silicone rubber), I will readily acknowledge the risk I knowingly chose to take with regard to any possible problems I might encounter with a generic pole. I may have gotten lucky, or I might find out six, twelve, twenty-four months from now that I didn’t. There is no warranty, and aside from the Amazon seller, I have no contact information if a problem is found or I need replacement parts or product advice in the future. Additionally, I have no statement to offer with regard to the long term performance of the product I received. On the known downside, I have had a single instance of a small ceiling slippage (about an inch or so) after two ½ weeks of daily, untrained PLAY by myself (125 lbs.) and my 60 lb. eight year old, several sessions with my sister (roughly the same size as myself) and 175 lb. husband, plus a few spins by my 6-foot-something dad. (This one slip was the reason behind my additional security measures at the ceiling.) Once my mind is set I am incredibly impatient, and not knowing any better it never occurred to me to check that the pole was still plumb and fully secure before using it; I honestly think the slip was my fault and not a defect of the pole. In my case, studio lessons aren’t a possibility, but I see from another of your posts that you have that opportunity. Ask your instructor; consider the advice of those here and any experienced others you may know in relation to whatever your personal goals and situation may be. In the meanwhile, I personally am happy to meet others who are still just learning, and I am sure you will make the best choice you can. Best Wishes, Gigi
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Hi. I'm new here and to pole in general, but this is what I have and while I'm not doing anything really challenging yet, it seems to work for me for now. My sister just bought the same one after trying mine. I did add some plywood to distribute the pressure across three ceiling joists, and framed in the top dome with 1x3s to prevent slipping. Many of the reviews, including some by pole instructors, said it is comparable to the x-pole. It is definitely not the shower-rod type pole from the "Pole Dance Fail" videos on YouTube, if that is your worry.
Because I had never done this before, and our finances are kind of tight right now, I could not have gotten the green light to buy an authentic x-pole. That would have been my ideal based on their reputation, but I didn't want to risk buying it and then finding that, for whatever reason, pole dancing just wasn't for me. I plan to use this one to start learning, and upgrade when a) we can afford to, and b) I'm skilled enough to convince my husband to let me put a pole in the middle of our living room (12' ceilings).
Again though, I'm new and have only had my pole for about a month. I'm certainly no expert, but hopefully that helps and maybe one of the more experienced Veeners has tried this one can offer some insight on it's long term performance.
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name: Angi
age: 33
location: Richmond, VA
stage name: n/a. Gigi is a nickname from my niece and nephew.
lessons or self taught: Self taught (from various YouTube videos) to this point, but I will be starting Veena’s lessons this week and I’m so excited!
spin or static: SPIN!!! I love that feeling of freedom; it’s like I’m four years old again.
shoes or barefoot: Barefoot, at least for now. I have gorgeous shoes collecting dust until I learn to stand in them.
favorite pole move: At this moment, the back hook. I am in awe of the Iron X and spatchcock, but these are my holy grail of pole moves.
day job: I wear many hats. Stay-at-home-mom, domestic R&D, in home day care provider/preschool teacher, organic gardener, maker of “things.”
your best/sexiest feature: My feet – not because they are pretty, but I have nice, high arches and perfect pointe.
how you got into pole dancing: For artistry, fitness, confidence, and authentic sexiness. I do not plan to ever teach or compete, but on an individual level pole dancing appeals to the few remaining areas of my life with which I am uncertain / dissatisfied. I want to see how good I can be, and what I can learn about myself in the process. My initial exposure to pole dancing outside of a strip club was a video sent to me by my dad!
how you found out about studioveena.com: Pre-pole-purchase internet research.
if you were a pair of underwear would you be a thong, boy shorts, bikini cut or granny panties: Basic black hip-hugger boy shorts; practical and comfortable. I have, however, been known to rock the granny panties from time to time, and I’m not in the least ashamed of that!
